"Narcissism" as used in everyday speech is a pejorative, not clinical, term. It's a highfalutin way of saying "selfish" or "bad boy" or "
bad girl." When clinical terms are bandied about all-the-time as insult they become drained of meaning and, paradoxically, lose their sting. Word inflation. As for my affair, I can safely say that neither I nor my MW were clinical Narcissists. We were ...