I set out with the intention of romancing Leliana, but when I would choose the "flirty" responses, her approval didn't go up nearly as high as if I chose the "nice" responses (example: I said "You're a trusted friend, Leliana" instead of "Do you always enjoy the company of other women?"). Meanwhile, it was just so fun to joke around with
Alistair. Then, just like in real life, being friendly and...