Thread: what the heck is wrong with people? RSVP's for wedding

Wow, a lot of responses while I have been away lol. I might add that I just caught up on all of them and needed the good chuckle! As of now we have around 110 guests attending. At this point I just don't care. I want it over with and for me and DFH to be relaxing in Rome. I've been down and out for a while now, dealing with my health and problems on the home front. Lots of drama and heart ache...my mother will not be attending my...

Dear HOTS, if that is the way your mother is feeling it is probably best she does not attend your wedding, as much as that hurts you. I seem to know so many people dealing with heartbreaks, anger and hurts due to family members. In fact my daughter and I have been also thanks to a couple of very thoughtless (nicest word I can think of) relatives. As my daughter said "most families are not exactly a Hallmark family"..so true! Take...

Need to add that my mother has been going to fewer and fewer showers the past few years and even though I know many of the brides' families I do not send gifts when I see the notices in the newspaper.

So? after reading all the posts... I'd like to know who would want to pi$$ off Steelersfan?? If you'd take the chance? you're a braver person than I am

hots, thank goodness! I wouldn't send another invitation either. I know you've put a lot of time into it. I completely understand that is it frustrating and that people don't understand (until they go through it themselves). But all of these responses along the line of "I'd hire guards to keep them out of the wedding" or "I'd hire a bus to transport them to the wedding but really take them to a Mexican...

FYB - I admire how you say "don't be blunt" in such a blunt way. Takes talent.

Wow... a mass newspaper thank you note is a new one. I'm not the most tactful person in the world so if even I know something is rude, it's pretty rude. I'm not sure if a newspaper thank you is as bad or possibly even worse than not sending a thank you at all.

The party for close friends is every bit as much hassle as the reception. We more or less eloped, and were going to do the party, then once we saw how much work it would be, and the price tag, we bagged that idea.

flygirl, thanks for adding to my thoughts. Yes, definitely folding chairs, the old wooden ones with the name of the firehall printed on back. As to your concern about calling the RSVPs first, if it's a buffet dinner, the tables are called, starting with the bridal table, then table 1, table 2, etc. So you just have that done, then when all the RSVP'd tables have been called, "At this time we would like to invite all of our...

Oh HOTS I did not realize you were having such problems with your mom. I am so sorry to hear this. She will truly regret not attending I believe some day. Hopefully she will have a change of heart and decide to attend your wedding! Do you have a sibling who can talk to her?? Your wedding will be a great day and just focus on that special trip to Rome as well. What a perfect place to explore and eat to yur hearts content with your new husband!...