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Replying to: past sexual relationships Where do you get that it's always the man's fault? In THIS case, if he's the one constantly badgering her about her past, then yes it is his fault. Just as if the situation were reversed, it'd be hers. If he's bugging her about past details, it will breed resentment. I know it did for me. I was with my ex because I wanted to be with him and no other. Which meant I didn't...

Replying to: past sexual relationships Steve-Thanks for the reply man!! Its nice to see I'm not alone. Its easy to get on a public site and pass judgment and say things like, "move on and forget about it" however, that is easier said than done. There have been issues that have come up with her past relationships that have almost caused us to split up as well. My wife is the most honest person I know so when I ask questions and...

Replying to: past sexual relationships I have yet to see where a woman has complained about worry regarding her SO's previous lovers. If you can force yourself to give a little latitude when reading the OP's initial post, you should see that she is contributing to his anxiety by mentioning her former boyfriend's attributes and/or prowess.

Replying to: past sexual relationships Yeah man, you are beating a dead horse. I was in the same position as you. This is my wife's 2nd marriage and I too was a virgin when we married. Yes, my wife did the same thing as yours. I heard all about her ex-husband's penis and her partners after their divorce. It was sometimes hurtful, but I eventually realized I was the one she chose to settle down with and raise a family. We have now...

Replying to: past sexual relationships Got a link to an article right here on WebMD over the weekend that fits this topic perfectly. The story was titled "11 "Don't-tell-the-husband" secrets all wives keep" and the one pertaining is: 5. Our ex-boyfriends were not completely terrible in bed. You know how we're always telling you things like, "Oh yeah, you're definitely the biggest I've ever...

Replying to: past sexual relationships Before I married my wife she told me she had had sex with her boyfriend before she met me. That is all I cared to know and I have never thought to ask her anything else about it. She has never asked me if I had sex with anyone else. The past is in the past. Tom

Replying to: past sexual relationships If one half of her doesn't want to hurt the OP, the other half is definitely trying to hurt. It appears that she's either trying to put off your curiosity by insulting you, or insulting you to create curiosity. Either way, you have behavior patterns destructive to the other.

Replying to: past sexual relationships Maybe you need to "fight fire with fire". As an example, when I was first with my partner, I would make jokes about her small breasts, or "boob-ettes". It only took about twice before she told me to layoff the comments or she would tell people about my "dick-ette". (23 years have passed since and we are still together!)

Replying to: past sexual relationships I agree with those who said that you need to deal with your insecurities and that both you and your wife need to stop these destructive behaviors. Try to put your difference in experience out of your mind and just enjoy being with your wife. Again, as others said, she did choose you, so you must have qualities she really likes. I would also like to respond to a couple of things other posters said: LM --...

Replying to: past sexual relationships You care because you want to measure up to her past lovers, and in fact, you want to be her Knight in Shining Armor. You were inexperienced and you knew it. You also knew she had, in your words here, " a substantial amount of sexual partners." Maybe your exuberance to be her "man", or her dream lover has caused you to forget she is with you for a reason. Quit worrying about her former...