Thread: mens controlling mothers + my narcissistic father = recipe for disaster

Thank you very much for replying.. I do agree that therapy would probably help. Now that I am grad school I have access to their health center. I recently watched the movie The Squid and the Whale, and it through me into such a depressive state (what an accurate portrayal of a miserable narcissist the guy was and what a toll it took on his family) that it motivated me to finally email the health center and asked for an appointment. Starting...

Well, I think recognizing the problem is more than half the battle. Congratulations on that. Now you just have to get to work on rising about your raising. I think you can if you work hard at it. Perhaps a good therapist could help? I know some people are really opposed to it, but it can help get some good, objective third party input. You have to find a way to forgive your parents for not being who you wnated them to be. I think that's a...

I would never deny the importance of parents in our lives, but at the same time I don't think it is all about parents. We are certainly born with potentials, and education and upbringing can only enhance or diminish them. Parents are not responsible for the whole of our life. And it is even unfair to hold them as such. If your father treated your bother better than he did treat you, maybe he had a reason to do so. I am just saying...

similar upbringing. before you can have a relationship, you need to have a relationship with yourself. I went to coda (co dependents anonymous) which helped me to not be afraid to be on my own. I now prefer my own company, and have friends with good boundaries only. If they do not, then I let them go. I do not ask for anything from parents/siblings. I am the happiest I have been. I wish you luck on your journey of self realisation.