Thread: major marrige problem, desperate for help, please. long story

I forgot to mention, she moved out of the bedroom last week, she's now sleeping on the couch or in the spareroom, and there are no more kiss's hello or goodbye now. Its colder and more lonely then ever now. I just joined a Midlife crisis forum, boy its some scary stuff, but there is no doupt, that is what she is going thru.

Quote: Originally Posted by sisters359 On this side of the pond, it's common "knowledge" that defense wins games. Maybe offense wins wars. I hope not, that just seems wrong. In any case, I was not advising it. I was saying that danl's wife was going on the offensive as a way of defending herself and making herself seem to be in the right.

I suppose you know every woman in the world? I am a woman and I have literally hundreds of women friends, in business and social. I know how women think because I hear them talk. All women I have talked to in my adult life, have preferences as to what turns them on and what doesn't. Since THEY are women and women tend to talk to each other quite extensively about things, I would take their opinion on the subject over that of a man, any...

You could always youtube it. there is some short interviews on the message....might help to try that way if time is an issue

Re: major marrige problem, desperate for help, please. long story If she still gets her monthly cycle, then she at least has one ovary left, and it's very possible she could be going through menopause, or at least getting ready to. I still think you should pursue the medical possibilities. Not all women react the same to hormonal changes, some it doesn't seem to affect hardly at all, and some take it way way hard.

Yep Dan I think deejo has a point. I told my husband to go and he went. At least now when Im so angry I dont have to see him setting on the couch. Im still angry though Im ranting. You can definetly tell when youve lost them.

Danl I know how you feel I have been there. When you back off and give her space does it make any differance? In my situation it does sometimes. I have been told three times she is leaving but it changes a little every time. Has she has a thyroid test done in the resent past. I know it would not be a quick fix but there is a chance there maybe a problem. I don't know how you could get her to go but if she has some symptoms of hypothyroid...

My take on all this: Yes, she has changed. People change over the course of many years. You wouldn't expect someone from high school to be the same 20 years later. You would expect change and hopefully maturation. People assume that after some age (25, 30, who knows?) that this change stops happening. It does not. It may happen more slowly, but people still change. Trying to peg it as a "mid-life" crisis is a bit...

Quote: Originally Posted by MarkTwain Interesting... I had never heard that version, so I googled "the best offense is a good defense". It gets 1.1 million hits. I then googled "offense is the best defense" that only gets 30K hits. It seems that in crossing the Atlantic, the phrase must have changed. I looked it up, too. Your phrase is older--from a military strategist. In the US, the phrase is most...

- Timeframe. By most of your indications the most dramatic changes in how she responds to you have occurred within a relatively short period. - Removing her wedding ring without making you aware. This is far less a statement about what she thinks, than what she wants others to think. Specifically, other men. - Taking a distinct interest in her appearance. Sudden weight loss. - Her insistence that you are 'below rock bottom', her...