Thread: i am gay

Quote: Originally Posted by Cochonette Your family is against that? They may change. A false, but common, assumption people make is that when the world is unaccepting, that is just the essential and unchangeable way of things. If my family could not accept me for doing nothing to them, I would not consider them my family. Family is always there for you. That is something I have realized. If there is anyone who would deny you a place in their...

Quote: Originally Posted by rei you know, i live in the bible belt so you'd think i'd be surrounded by homophobia. and maybe i technically am, but in terms of the people i know personally, those i consider friends and not acquaintances, i can't think of anyone who has issues with GLBTQ. Yeah, isn't that funny? That's exactly what I was thinking. It seems like I hear about people having problems with it, more than I...

Do you have "identity issues" because somebody just told you you might have "identity issues" or because you have a problem? What does an "identity issue" mean to you? How old are you? Under 18 about 99.99% of people have identity issues. It is almost in the definition of puberty that one needs to find out what kind of person one is. Also note that if you solve "identity...

The best way is to give up the identity. Give up attachment to the ego and all forms of identification. It's not as hard as it sounds, it's just a rephrasing of the mindset. Instead of saying "I am gay." you say "My sexual preference is gay." Identity is the form of thoughts and beliefs we have about ourselves. The problem with it is simply that if we think something about ourselves is true, then...

Then for now stick to online resources, maybe you could even make new friends online. Of course, you'll eventually grow to the point where you're comfortable being out to a few people in person, maybe you'll make some local gay friends online, then you meet them in person. You're not obligated to tell anyone right now... you can still "pretend" to be straight until you're ready. But at some point,...

I don't find him offensive but sincerely I didn't expect such a lame and pathetic post from an otherwise active participant of this board. Gleb

PWL i agree that it can be a blessing. adolescents may be in a delicate situation though, families have disowned children over this... which is silly as well as potentially serious... so the OP may want to stay in the closet (at least with family) and come out in college. that is a pretty popular route to take. you know, i live in the bible belt so you'd think i'd be surrounded by homophobia. and maybe i technically am, but in terms...

Quote: Originally Posted by whattodo yes I think I have identity issues too..how can i heal that and not have identity issues? Take note of what emotions you feel that cause you to think you have identity issues. Emotions seem to be at the heart of all our issues. So target the emotions and use EFT to clear them. I recommend watching Robert Smith's Faster EFT. You can watch his videos on youtube. They're quite good.

Your family is against that? They may change. A false, but common, assumption people make is that when the world is unaccepting, that is just the essential and unchangeable way of things. If my family could not accept me for doing nothing to them, I would not consider them my family. Family is always there for you. That is something I have realized. If there is anyone who would deny you a place in their home or physically harm you, they are...

The answer is your life is definitely worth living! I hope you realize you can create the life you want. From a male who is not gay who believes your life as mine is worth living. I hope you find joy and bliss in your life, you deserve it!