Thread: at a crossroads with relationship with sister -- LONG!!!!

I just wanted to thank you all for your thoughts and input. I plan to respond to her email and many of you helped me to be able to put my feelings and thoughts into words. So thanks for helping me!! Blessings,

(my own opinion of course) good grief - i think it's time you step back away from this sister. just step back! you're going round and round about nothing and it's getting you stressed! step away from the sister. when she wants a relationship with you WITHOUT terms, she'll come to you. until that time, get the focus off her and onto you. just do your own thing with your husband and your kids. when(if) she grows up, then...

I remember your posts about that. The way I read it is that your sister is playing the "holier-than-thou" card and likely has no intention of maintaining a relationship that's not on her terms. Probably not what you wanted to hear. I don't know if I'd find a way to deal with that. Judie

I have to agree with the other poster. If she was truly 'holy' and had prayed....I don't think God told her to forgive and just move forward. He would want you to be secure in your relationship too. It sounds like she is holding on to baggage of the past and doesn't want to fess up, or she is manipulating you and trying to make you feel 'unworthy'. I feel for you if she is your only family left. HUGS! I...

(my own opinion of course) good grief - i think it's time you step back away from this sister. just step back! you're going round and round about nothing and it's getting you stressed! step away from the sister. when she wants a relationship with you WITHOUT terms, she'll come to you. until that time, get the focus off her and onto you. just do your own thing with your husband and your kids. when(if) she grows up, then...

This is an easy one- If you want a relationship with her, she's right. Move on. The unresolved issues become unimportant eventually. My guess is she went home and tried to think of something concrete and simply couldn't. Those once HUGE issues - she's most likely forgotten the details if she can recall them at all. If you don't want to mend this b/c you are still reeling from the unfounded accusations, then hold your...

My prediction is if you do as she asks (draw the line and never speak of "it" again) that it will just start all over again. I think it's really chicken shit to level all sorts of charges against someone then refuse to be specific. Especially when she's asking you to change. And I would change churches. It's one thing to have a problem with someone that goes to the church, but entirely another thing to have a...

Being at the crossroads in a relationship is hard. I have found that you can't change the other person. One book I read stated however, that you could influence them. The question would be is do you want to make the effort to do so? Do you truly want to have a good relationship with your sister? If not, then I agree it's just time to move on to a superficial relationship or none at all. If so, you might have to take the...

I think if my sister tried to heap as much guilt on me as yours has on you, I'd really have to sit down and assess my own needs and what kind of family I want in my life. Family should not tear you apart, make you miserable, or leave you constantly wanting - they are supposed to, according to legend, be there for you I agree with the above. My step-father has long maintained that there are times when you need to...

The bible says much on what is happening between you and your sister. This is my outsiders view only and I apologize in advance if I offend you. In Matthew 7:2 - Jesus warns us that we will receive the same kind of judgment that we make of others. Your sister has judged you without providing proof. This is a very dangerous thing for a Christian to do. Jesus adds another warning: Our judgment may be distorted because we may have a flaw of far...