Thread: Why do men find it hard to be friends? Free Dating, Singles and Personals

I disagree with the bitter attitude that doing so makes you a victim of her, a doormat, or anything else. I agree with you WIP. I guess I am talking about the women who shout from the rooftops they want to be friends before a relationship. I once "dated" a woman for about a month, didnt get a kiss, nothing. It didnt really bother me, but after a month I asked her the following question. "whats up?...are we dating?"....her...

Yes, but not just "some" women. That's why players can run through scores of women, and many, if not most women have a couple (or more) stories about men who've screwed them over. This isn't gender specific. Everyone male or female runs up against some douchebag who they weren't prepared for. I can't count the number of friends I know from high school and college who would ONLY date (euphemism) the...

Then perhaps it takes longer for guys to go from "I'd do her" to "I'd date her". That's a better way to explain what I mean. It takes them longer to see someone as a romantic prospect than it does women. Possibly, to settle down, yes -- whether he's a guy who will put out instantly or not. But the discussion is about being "just friends" vs "more than friends". So either way, wanting...

Most "decent" guys seem to complain about the men who get lots of women, but forget that the type of woman these guys generally end up with is vastly different from a woman they'd want to date (one would hope anyway). Maybe yes and maybe no. Don't forget that the whole theme of the OP is why men who don't "get" a particular woman he wants finds it hard to be just friends. Sticking up a little for women here,...

A guy that doesn't have a dating life though will be very unwilling to be platonic friends with the only girl he chats with. And the more he invest i.e. calling, dinner, gifts the less able he'd be able to shake his romantic feelings. Why would a guy be buying dinner and gifts for a woman that has told him she only wants to be friends?? Do you think you can buy her love? If I told a man that I had no romantic feelings for him and...

wetfish77: "About 75% of my friends are male. I grew up around my uncles. They took me hunting, trapping, fishing, fixing cars, playing pool, etc. Now they sit back and chuckle because I know how to communicate with men." ----------------- You know, I seriously think that if a girl grows up in an environment where there's a lot men - brother(s), father, his friends, uncles, etc. etc., then yeah, I'm sure that it will...

Oh GAWD! I just can keep reading all of these messages that require me to scroll down to continue reading them!!

wetfish said My last partner was bright, articulate and analytical like me. We spent hours talking about the reasons why men and women have difficulty communicating with each other. Now, I need the rest of the male population to confirm what my ex bf told me. Eventually, it will sink in. I am changing how I relate to men. He is trying as well......bottom line....we don't want to spend the rest of our lives alone. This reminds me about a...

okay - I get it. Thanks to everyone for all your input. There have been about 100 responses to this thread and about 95 of them have said that friendship is either impossible or unwanted. So - I get it. I'm that 5 % on the margins of the bellcurve (what's new?) when it comes to the whole friendship thing and now I totally understand why my attempts at friendship on POF have failed utterly. I will change my expectations accordingly;...

mikeyesfan I don't intentionally have male friends as back up in case the current relationship goes bad. It just happens because the guy is in the wings waiting for the opportunity. He will pursue, back off, try again, back off, and on and on...... He said the thrill is in the chase. My last partner was bright, articulate and analytical like me. We spent hours talking about the reasons why men and women have difficulty communicating with...