Thread: What should I do?

you know, I went to see one therapist and she basically told me that part of the problem was that I was too young and that I just needed to find the right person, but i've been messing things up with guys since i was 16, i dont think it's normal anymore, i'm only 20yrs old now and i'm starting to think that i'm a lost cause. I'll just be miserable and unhappy forever.

I think you need a new therapist! Being young isn't a reason for "messing things up". You are not a lost cause. You simply need to learn how to manage a relationship. This does not come easily - I'm 55 and I've spent my whole life learning how! I've made mistakes, I've messed up relationships and I've had therapy before. Luckily I really liked and trusted my therapist and worked through what I...

Hello, 00lady00 . If you're having relationship issues over this, try actually talking with your "man of interest" because pursuing a relationship or even dating him, it's such a major part of your life it will eventually become a part of his if you start dating, this could cause conflict and other severe relationship problems. < edited > If he's really the one, he'll drop everything just to...

I'm not familiar with this disorder or how it occurs, but do agree that ongoing counselling is a must. If you are not fully comfortable with your counsellor you will need to find a new one. I remember when i went through my marriage breakdown i found a good counsellor after my third attempt. You are fortunate that you are only 20 and you are still young. There is time to chill out, forget about relationships and do some fun things with...

I wouldn't call that a turn for the worst, I'd call that extremely common. It happens literally all the time. Guys will break up with one gal and take another one the very next day sometimes, that's just how they are! It's no reflection on you, it has happened to ALL of us, more often than not. I think that it's good you've identified that you have this problem because it means you're aware of what's...

Wow, this is an amazing post. I agree with everything said on this thread... I suppose the best way to handle it WOULD be to take time away from boyfriends. My recommendation, however - is NOT to completely wipe out anyrelationships with boys. I agree that you should wipe out relationships with dating boys, yes... Think of it this way - Boy's will be Boys... That means - that relatively speaking, men in general will act the same way in...