Thread: We were swingers. Now she's progressed without me.

QUOTE: "My wife and Mr. P have established a marriage-quality relationship. He's inside our secure fortress of emotional love. I'm now sharing my wife's emotions with another man. Mr. P has always been a good friend, but now I see him as a competitor. He's identified my wife as his soul mate..." You are not sharing your wife's emotions with another man, they are separate emotions for you which are...

Mr. 2TT, Sigh, Mr. P is a lawyer who you feel can ruin your whole life. You have said that he and Mrs. P have had a rocky life together, and you fear that he is targeting Mrs. 2TT, and that you are screwed. Yet, you continue to flirt with Mrs. P and seduced her? The thing that brought me to a poly frame of mind is that I can care for, and love, more than one woman. That doesn't mean that I have to, but I should be able to do so. It sounds...

Mr. 2TT here. I'm very impressed with the time and effort this community is investing in our relationship. I am not angry, and am careful to not be perceived as such. I would characterize my disposition as disappointed. Quote: Originally Posted by gatorvol64 Knowing your SO loves someone else, sharing them emotionally can be more difficult that sharing them sexually. (Most here would agree with that and avoid the possibility.) However, it...

Re: We were swingers. Now she's progressed without me. Relationships issues are always complicated. Sex is the easy part, emotional issues usually create the deeper issues. Having read both sides (and I come from the background of polyamorous relationships most of my adult life), the only thing I have to say is that I think you two need to see a poly friendly counselor together. It may not resolve any issues, but at least it forces you...

Quote: Originally Posted by 2TexasTornados Good question. I felt like constantly trolling the internet for new people for sex was dangerous, and it felt slutty. Meeting new strangers and trusting them to be D&D free would eventually lend itself to a disastrous mistake. I wanted a close, secure couple that we could trust, see regularly and look forward to weekend parties with them. A poly relationship embodied that for me. We would be...

Re: We were swingers. Now she's progressed without me. Well there were certainly some things in your side of the story that your husband didn't share, like your warnings and the fact that you were already bonded with P, and that it was your husband who first expressed interest in poly. Thanks for sharing. I hope you and your husband can reach some sort of compromise that works for both of you. __________________ Through every dead...

Re: We were swingers. Now she's progressed without me. Quote: Originally Posted by couplers In a nutshell this thread is what is wrong with so much on this site. Just because it is not your way does not make it wrong, just not right for you. The husband [OP] is not happy with the way this has gone for him and he is part of the cause. He has the right to state that and should. He is not you or like you but that does not make him wrong in...

Ahhh. When the warmth of love becomes the chill of doubt.

Re: We were swingers. Now she's progressed without me. From what we can tell, this path is unacceptable for you. Swinging, in our book, is a couples experience. If one of us isn't happy or comfortable then we fix it -- even if that means dialing back the activities. You don't want to be a "debbie downer" but in the long term it doesn't seem as if this can continue. Your marriage will ultimately suffer and...

Re: We were swingers. Now she's progressed without me. The truth is that the only thing that ever holds any of us to our partner is our love and devotion. If that wavers (for any reason) splits happen. There was never more than that holding her to you. It's just that now you've opened a door for her to expand a relationship that was already there. YOU opened the door, he walked in. As you said, he'd leave his wife if YOUR...