Thread: WEDDINGBELLS Message Board Community: Pregnancy disclosure quandry

Just a little update...I just met with my former mentor and she had a really smart solution. So...I am going to apply, but then "supplement" my application in a week or two (once I've announced my pregnancy) and explain that I am going to withdraw my name for consideration until I return from maternity leave. This way I am on record as having expressed interest in the program, and get my name "out there," but...

Quote: Quote: Quote: Quote: Quote: I'd go to your former mentor in confidence and see what she has to say and then go from there. This is what I would do as well. Not being a lawyer myself, but being aware of the importance of appearance, I would be hesitant to apply then turn it down, especially when a few months down the road it would be evident when you're expecting. In my experience people don't just forget things, and I...

Quote: So. I think this is the perfect solution. Maybe I will REALLY luck out and get the position starting in January 2011, right when I come back from maternity leave! Wouldn't that be the cat's meow! Great solution.

Quote: Quote: Quote: Quote: I'd go to your former mentor in confidence and see what she has to say and then go from there. This is what I would do as well. Not being a lawyer myself, but being aware of the importance of appearance, I would be hesitant to apply then turn it down, especially when a few months down the road it would be evident when you're expecting. In my experience people don't just forget things, and I would be...

I agree Ottawagirl, disclosure once an offer is in place should occur but telling them prior I don't see as necessary. Especially when it's quite possible (but unlikely proven) that you won't get the offer BECAUSE you are PG...that's discrimination. Hell, I didn't get a job I applied to because I'm female and have a child (not even PG) but that's another story.

I was wondering about this and how it turned out. Sounds like a smart plan!

I think in this case honesty is the best policy. If you knew for a fact when the position were to start and you knew you would be able to fulfill your commitment then I wouldn't tell them. However, in this case I would either not apply, or apply with a caveat.

I too would give an explanation/disclosure of when you would be available. What if it didn't start until Feb, or later? You could also just send an email asking about timelines, then make your decision as to whether you should apply.

Maybe I'm the only one without any morals but I wouldn't tell them anything. If you get it and because of timing you figure you can't complete the full 6 months then you could turn it down (just found out you're pregnant!) or canvass the possibility of a short secondment.

Quote: Maybe I'm the only one without any morals but I wouldn't tell them anything. If you get it and because of timing you figure you can't complete the full 6 months then you could turn it down (just found out you're pregnant!) or canvass the possibility of a short secondment. I'm with LE on this one.