Thread: The envious friend

I have only told one person I work with, and she's a close friend. I've decided not to tell anyone else, just don't want to hear anyone's opinion on the matter. I think there's a general assumption among my work friends (not incorrect) that I'm always trying to lose weight, so I don't think they'll be shocked when I start losing. When I mentioned on another thread that I've decided not to tell...

Nicely said Stella

Yes, I told a friend who flat out said she was jealous especially when I got smaller than she was. I told her I didn't do it for vanity purposes but health reasons and if it made her feel better at the end I would have saggy baggy elephant skin

Quote: Originally Posted by FatButNotHappy She thinks that once I am skinny I wont want to talk to her or go out to eat with her, or i will only talk about food/surgery. Or i will end up like my mom (brain damaged from malnutrition after WLS.) I keep telling her that it is obvious now the only reason she wants to be around me now is because I make HER LOOK SKINNY...and i am her fat friend she keeps around to make herself look smaller. She is...

I have a friend that told me to have the surgery but not to get smaller than her cause then she would be the "fat friend" . We had several conversations about the surgery and the health benefits for me, but she still was against it. I didn't want to lose her friendship, but thought that it was incrediably selfish of her to be that way. Since then I have put some distance between us and I don't comment on the surgery...

I have some co-workers that flat out stopped being supportive of my surgery and my weight loss and became downright nasty when they became the 'fat ones' of the group. It was okay before, when I was the heaviest...but now that I no longer am....they lost the 'comfort' of knowing that no matter how overweight they were..there was always one person that was even more overweight (me).

My aunt (who is also one of my dearest friends) is pretty envious of me having this surgery and admits it. She says one part of her is so excited for me but the other half is scared to death she will "lose me," and I wont make her laugh anymore. She is very depressed (job, husband, money, just diagnosed with breast cancer) and I tend to crack her up when nothing else can. She thinks that once I am skinny I wont want to talk...

I think this is the main reason I've decided not to share this. I think my skinny friends would get this (most of them have had PS to look even thinner, and I'm the fat friend), but I worry that my 3 obese sisters wouldn't understand it (they've seen me lose the weight before, so my slow WL isn't anything new).

I can relate to some of that here. A lot of my co workers are really against it. reminding me that they know someone who died, can't believe I am going to do it before Thanksgiving, why don't I just wait until next year. I have finally quit talking about it but now... I am not sure if it is jelousy or what but it really stinks to have them tell you how against it they are when you are just days away from surgery. My surgery date is...