Thread: Something I Just Figured Out about Grieving . .

Words of wisdom - I especially can empathize with what you said about looking back to see how far forward you have come.  It is painful, isn't?  You really seem to have had it even more tougher than I have had it - with a lump in my throat I say this that tomorrow would be the anniversary of my husband's cancer surgery - Lord, I remember that day as if it were yesterday - you just never know what path life will...

Hi, Beth ~ So...how is this Labor Day week-end going for you?  I've been a widow now for 6.5 years; I cannot even remember how 'raw' the grief was during the first three months after I lost my late husband.    For you and your loss, it has been such a relatively 'brief' period of time.  Be patient with yourself & with the healing process!   For now, it's good...

Goodmorning my dear friends, I also know about the driving thing I have a new pt crusier sitting in the garage do I drive Yes only if I have to Roger did all the driving I got to sit and enjoy the view, how things change. my sister-in-law also picks me up once in awhile and we go to lunch her driving makes me nervous. My late brother(her hubby use to rag on her all the time about her driving ) I hope today is a better day for all of you. This...

I have been alone for 10 years now.  I miss my guy, but his sister keeps me too busy to be lonely.  We are both widowed now.  We both had marriage partners in the past that left something to be desired.  We share our stories, laughing as we drive to wherever our appointment  (usually medical) happens to be.  The driving is getting more difficult as we age (71-72).  Although I just...

Hi Anna, Thank you for the note. This group has helped me so much. I have been unable to join a group locally, due to my traveling for business almost every week, so I write instead. My weekend has been good...helped my sister and niece make a decision yesterday to get a new puppy. They lost one last winter, and what a fun day! SHe has been my rock, and so glad I could be her's this weekend. I am making plans for some major...

Pat, I understand exactly what you mean.  I make sure that I eat but I don't eat like I should.  I was thinking of having a plate of nachos when I went outside to check on Will and found him lying on the ground.  I never got my nachos that evening but have eaten nachos almost every day since then.  My bereavement counsellor told me she thought that subconsciously, I feel like if I'd had my nachos...

It has been over 18 months for me and at first I couldn't eat as I felt if he couldn't eat why should I, I got thru that phase and started using food as a pacifier, eating made me feel better and now I have type 2 diabetes. But thru all of this I could not think of Phil while I was eating or the guilt would return, I don't know if this is something that will pass with time or not, but at age 65 how much time is left? I...

 After reading your post today I rejoined the group because you described so accurately the same feelings I have since losing my husband two years ago - we had been together for 34 years - it was a second marriage for both.The feelings of aloneness are unbearable at times and I feel the walls are closing in on me. I do try to keep busy and involved, which does help and I would encourage you to do the same. We cannot bring back what...

I find a lot of thing hard to do.yes eating is one. I use to make a big dinner and have my son and girlfirend over, now days its hard just to make a meal for me.  it's hard to go see a movie ami I didhonoring himby going? sometimes I feel like it.  Sometimes its had just to get out of bed as I think why? something bad might happen.  But then a voice withing says I must do all these things to enjoy life...

  I don't go in my kitchen except maybe to get a glass of water.........my Richie loved to cook & he was very good............when i do go in i picture him there doing his thing & it hurt so much...........it is only 4months since left & i still can't believe it...........he was bigger then life & to watch the wonderful man fade away before our eyes (3daughters) was just horrible... I am...