Thread: Should you let your baby CIO (cry it out)?

Semantics. But babies are a 24-hour job. The baby's not OK on his own for 5 hours... someone's doing the job. It's a shared position, maybe, is a better way of putting it. I work it most of the time, and my husband kicks in some of his time, and my mother-in-law works now and then, too. But the baby never stops being a baby, nor ceases to need care and attention. -- Andrea in New Mexico considers that it's the only job...

Quote: Originally Posted by Misty Also, the study posted above, no where does it say this study was done on CIO. Quote: To evaluate a standardized sleep programme that is a two-step variation of graduated extinction Quote: The Ferber method—also known as “graduated extinction”—is perhaps the most well-known sleep training program for children. http://www.parentingscience.com/Ferber-method.html

Sara, I will always forgive you, as a mother, for the time you let your child cry while wiping away the poop-dangle! (Excellent post BTW.)

I will jump up from a toilet mid-poop if a child needs my immediate care (yes, with poop dangling), I will skip meals, spend sleepless nights, ignore friendships, and put aside my own vanity, entertainment and flippin' pride to tend to my children, but when you have more than one or if you have one of the more 'challenging' sort, or you are a working mother be it part-time or full-time, no, you are not at every one of your...

Quote: Originally Posted by OrangeblossomB Maybe parenting is more like one of those jobs... you are "on the job" 24/7, as you do not stop being a parent, but... there is downtime. Yeah I can agree with that

Quote: Originally Posted by Carolyn I think we're going off topic here, but I'm still going to add something. Here's my argument that parenting is not a 24hour job. In any 'job' you are required to work all that time. When I go to work at 9am apart from my designated rest times I work solidly through to 5pm. So with that in mind if I had a 24hour job, yes I still have 'designated rest times' but you...

Quote: Originally Posted by Sign Of The Fish Burger I still can't wrap my brain around the fact that some of you don't think parenting is a 24/7 job... Sure there are times when I tell DH that I'm going to take a bath, so watch the little one... but even during times like that I'm still a Mom. If something happened my bath would end and I'd take care of her. Same with leaving her with a sitter- I'm still a Mom...

Quote: Originally Posted by Sign Of The Fish Burger I still can't wrap my brain around the fact that some of you don't think parenting is a 24/7 job... Sure there are times when I tell DH that I'm going to take a bath, so watch the little one... but even during times like that I'm still a Mom. If something happened my bath would end and I'd take care of her. Same with leaving her with a sitter- I'm still a Mom...

Quote: Originally Posted by JBarlow I am up because my almost 6 year old woke me up hysterical. He had an accident in bed, needed to be cleaned up, have his bed changed and was in pain from growing. After tylenol, a 30 min leg rub by mom and getting cleaned up he is back asleep. The fact that I was up at this hour due to being a mom made me think of this debate...I thought it was funny. That humor might be lost on anyone but me...which is...

Dr Ferber, the guy who is credited with CIO, defines it like this: Quote: He [Dr. Ferber] recommends following a warm, loving bedtime routine and then putting your baby in bed awake and leaving him (even if he cries) for gradually longer periods of time. Putting a child to bed awake, says Ferber, is crucial to successfully teaching him to go to sleep on his own. Parents are instructed to pat and comfort their baby after each predetermined...