Thread: Sex therapy

Sorry, I'm rambling. I need to clarify about opposites. We are very similar in our views on religion, politics, education, family values, etc. We both like fine dining, dancing, going to concerts (when we can), and partying with our friends. We get along with most everything, and are a good team for raising our children because we agree on what we believe is the "right" way to manage a family. So all that is good. But...

What's that saying? Where attention goes energy flows. Staying focused on the positives while working on the rest is a good plan. Remember that while sometimes people can seemingly change overnight, it usually takes time. We program ourselves or have been programmed with things that go deep, rooting them out can be a real challenge. Your frustration shows and is understandable but don't set immpossible expectations. She has to want...

Luck.

Quote: Originally Posted by StillLearnin That's all I've ever been with her. Patient. For the past 25 years. I'm sick and freaking tired of being so d*mned patient. I want to move on with my life. Hopefully with her. I know. I think we both have posted about this issue with our wives on numerous occaisons so I'm totally understand. I give my thoughts mainly because I might be headed in the same direction as you pretty...

I guess it's like everything... When we want to learn something, "baby steps" right? So you tried the books, perhaps "too hard" a Video discussion, where people participate perhaps (women) with their problems and how they overcame them, is like the baby steps.... Can't hurt I don't think. WC may be able to answer what type, as she is into books and learning, and may know of a Video..

Quote: Originally Posted by StillLearnin She won't go see a doctor specifically for this. I've suggested getting a hormone test and whatever else the doctor suggests. And I too have talked to her until I'm blue in the face. It wasn't until recently when she seemed to reach a positive turning point. I need to help this process along because it is driving me insane. I truly understand. There are days when I feel like crying....

I would just be careful. I understand that you have been patient and waiting. If she shuts down like that and won't discuss it with you, it sounds like she is nervous, but also ashamed. I don't know why or what has happened but something has shut that lady down. Most people might not open up completely, but if each time you talk to her about sex and she sits quietly not looking at you or moving, then something is wrong. Does she...

It was a somewhat different situation - a disagreement on whether to have children. The therapist looked for the standard obvious issues, and didn't seem to follow the complexities of our situation. In this case my wife initiated - I think if I had, she might not have been very receptive. Quote: Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre What was your experience...if you don't mind my asking.

Quote: Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre Have you laid the law down? After so many years of other failed approaches, this might be a last option. Some people only learn when they understand the dire consequences that could transpire. Sad.....but true. I kind of agree with this. My mother neglected her last husband so much that he hooked up with a woman he met on a flight, divorced my mother and married her. My mom really wasn't getting...