Thread: Refoming Nice Guy Trying to Dodge Divorce

The morning after the dancing, the wife comes back talking divorce again. I found evidence that she is at some level of an affair with a participant in her dance class. Not really surprising, but to have it crystal clear still shook me, though not as much as I thought. It is making my lizard / ego kick into gear, I think, as I am becoming vengeful when thinking of her pending divorce. Since the affair realization, I am so much less willing to...

Quote: Originally Posted by heftysmurf The minute your spouse desides to leave you owe them no obligation for ANYTHING. Never forget that! amen / never forget that once they decide to leave it is only after they have made all their plans and have all their ducks in a row. YOu don't have to file before christmas and that would seem to others as cruel but you really need to talk with an attorney and find out your rights. she goes out...

Nofear, Most Kings do not allow a spouse to "Go Out Dancing". Don't offer the "uncle" the book unless he asks for it. Most people not ready for it will dismiss it out of hand. My brother refers to it as "psychobabble". he is not the one with the need for it, I am. Did your "aunt" go out with your "wife"? It would only be hospitality to share her...

Quote: Originally Posted by chevy1947 women and men both will do this stuff but the new trend is for men to be understanding and its BS. I have just been through this and I tried to do the understanding thing. Its complete bullshit. I wasn't happy with my wifes behaivour and she would not stop. The only thing that worked was taking the advice on here and that was to seperate / divorce. I simply couldn't see things clearly. Now the...

Quote: Originally Posted by NoFear The morning after the dancing, the wife comes back talking divorce again. I found evidence that she is at some level of an affair with a participant in her dance class. Not really surprising, but to have it crystal clear still shook me, though not as much as I thought. It is making my lizard / ego kick into gear, I think, as I am becoming vengeful when thinking of her pending divorce. Since the affair...

"your decision" This is why women that live with Nice Guys go mental... She wants a man - a man that can make a decision. A woman that tells you to commit suicide is telling you something.... what do you think that is? Please just initiate divorce proceedings. regards, GTB

Quote: Originally Posted by NoFear I am very sad and convicted of the words I hear during the rage. The words that the rage delivers indicate I am a dreadful, evil person. It frightens me to think that I can be perceived this way. Am I really this calculating and manipulative? I thought I was indifferent? Your wife will say whatever she has to make herself feel vindicated that she is doing the right thing. The best thing you can do is ignore...

Time to find a good attorney and lay out your game plan. NOW. Don't wait until after the holidays. There really is no "good time" to do these things.

The minute your spouse desides to leave you owe them no obligation for ANYTHING. Never forget that!

Have you visited bpdfamily.org? If not, you may want to have a look around.