Thread: Really obnoxios friend...

Yes, I do need to distance myself. This is the kind of family that if you don't like one, you might as well not like any of them. Plus my DH was best friends with her DH growing up. I met them in college and truth be told, I've known her since I was 12 and hated her then. I feel obligated to be kind and curteous when we're with the whole family. I'll be glad for the space when we move to Portland, but she's from there...

Oh yes, I know that amniocentesis and a few other things can determine the gender very early, but come on - a basic ultrasound??

Ranay - No, you are totally right... not by ultrasound at 12 weeks. At this point, even a higher resolution wouldn't be a enough... it is just too early for any sort of visual determination. (And, just as an FYI, CVS is the early procedure I am aware of -- it is done between 9-13 weeks, and takes 1-2 weeks for results. I think the earliest an amnio can be done is 15 weeks.) -May

I don't get why people do that.? Just be nice and say what?you really want to say in your mind, and smile outside but?laugh inside.? I have to be this way with my sister, not in regards to babies but everything else.? Just avoid her as much as you can and be nice when you have to see her, and as I know you already know, don't be competitive back (although it sounds like you're already doing all those things, but I understand...

You all are so much nicer than me!? I don't have time in?my life for that kind of garbage or drama.? Either you add to my life (and me to yours) or I am outta there unless I feel a much greater pull to stay in your life for something.? Life is just too short and too precious for people that constantly are a struggle to be around.? I don't have enough time or energy for the people I want to be around, so people like the one you...

Doesn't really sound like a friend.? Sounds more like someone you don't like and tolerate.? You may want to think about cutting that out of your life. She sounds toxic. EDIT:? I just read your repost to Tonya.? WOW that is tough.? I would just avoid her at group functions and not return phone calls.? I mean you can befriends with her sisters and not be friends with her.? You only need to be polite, but you can politely walk away...

I would just not try to be around her, or just not tell her about anything going on with your pregnancy... And to women, like men, everything is a competition. I think its only going to get worse as the children are born and grow up. I would definately distance myself from this lady asap.