Thread: Poly vs Swinging

Re: Poly vs Swinging Tadahiko, I think your right about poly being more about the relationship first than it is about the sex as it is in swinging. But I also think that everyone arrives at it differently. There isn't one road map for life. S __________________ Try anything once, twice if it is fun, three times if it is real good!

Thanks for clarifying the emotional aspect of Poly vs Hotwife or Cuckold. I would never want my wife to get emotionally invested with another man. Keeping it to sex would be paramount for me, but I couldn't speak for my wife. To see her get turned on by a bulge in another mans pants, or to shoot a peek up her skirt to another man would keep me hard for a month. But if she did fall in love, I'd be heart broken.

Re: Poly vs Swinging Speaking for a Poly threesome, Anna was my girlfriend in high school and my first lay. She and my wife have been best friends since 7th grade. Our relationship was borne out of having a great love for someone that we naturally wanted to extend into the sexual realm. It wasn't "we want to swing, but only with one person." The relationship came first. And just like with a long-term partner, we spend...

Not sure if our situation is considerd to be Poly. We are two couples who only swing with each other (does a poly relationship only involve 3 people? Not sure on this). If we are Poly, we can say that it's not without its problems because people's wants change and grow. We were so happy when we achieved what we thought was our ultimate goal - another attractive couple that shared our desire for swapping and sharing. But now 3 of us...

K McDonald, it seems to me that from what you write that you are really looking to swing, cuckold, or a hot-wife situation. The idea of your wife having sex with another man, one that is better endowed with you, is a turn-on. What about her being in love with this man though, and spending time with him outside of sex, like going on dates and movies and strolling through the park holding hands, kissing and giggling over stupid things? That is...

I'll echo what others have said. The OP is looking to fulfill a sexual fantasy. Polyamory is more about your emotional relationships. Swingers can be polyamorous and still be involved in swinging and people in polyamorous relationships can be involved in outside sexual contact. In my triad, if one of my partners and I have sex with another person or couple, that person or couple isn't automatically part of our relationship,...