Thread: No access to any funds of any kind until pay day...

I was raised similar to Windy. ?I am not sure of his location at childhood, but seems a little rural. ?I was too. ?If you were raised in a city, and your child is being raised in a city....things are different. I make no secret of my background.? I was raised just outside a tough little river-town in Iowa.? All my old friends are either dead or in prison.? When I get news from home it's?never good.? Last news I got was that one of my...

?My kids also will not be picking through the neighbors' trash and they won't be eating squirrels for dinner. I think that scoring something that's useful and in good shape for free is great no matter where I find it.? Why is it better if you pay for it? ? As for eating squirrel, I never get to anymore.? I don't hunt and DH only hunts for deer.? I'm sorry you never had the chance to bond with your parents while...

No - a child doesn't decide that they want to be self-sufficient by announcing that they wish to contribute finanacially to the running of the household.? Maybe that happens in the squirrel-eating part of the world, but it doesn't happen anywhwere else.? I'm not talking about the parents accepting money from a kid to pay the bills, or keep a roof over their head.? We agree whole heartedly on that- it's the parent's...

Pizza was a treat for my family. We never had takeout pizza. When I babysat, if the family had pizza, it was a treat for me, but since most of the families around me were lower income, too, when I babysat it was typically franks and beans. I completely understand WCP buying pizza for the family on Friday nights. I would have done that, too.

I'd give each of them 10 bucks a day to hang around my house and shoot everything that moves. That would be abusive to your daughters.

Samuel Jones: 1.?Three perfectly fine pumpkins sitting on a curb is not "going through people's trash", and?my kids recognize total waste -- and how to salvage that --when they see it. 2. You are just about the world's most pompous ass. Well, 2nd after BHO. 3. My daughter is pretty sure she knows who your daughters are, or their equivalents at her school, and they are the object of her pity. 4. It saddens me to know that...

Your hypothetical caviar analogy still fails because I would not permit my daughter to buy expensive caviar for the house every Friday night.? We don't have that kind of home.? If she was routinely buying expensive caviar it would be only for herself. So in other words, you wouldn't allow her to share.

As far as kids being harmed by being different from their peers, that can happen, but I don't think that sewing your own clothes would set them apart enough to cause any sort of harm. If the clothes are obviously homemade and the norm for the student's peers is to wear expensive, designer clothes, then there could be harm.? School society is much different now than in the 70s (I wore homemade clothes in the 70s...my aunt was a...

I think both sides of this debate?are accusing the other of holding a more extreme position than they actually do.? I don't think anyone on this thread is arguing that kids shouldn't do age-appropriate chores or that they should have all of their spending money provided to them free of work.? And I would hope no one thinks that kids should be sent out to get a job as soon as they're of legal age AND that they should contribute...

Every US law I've ever heard of - certainly my home on the prairie, sets 14 as the minimum age for child labor and then only lets children that young work part time. Unless it is a family business where the parent of the child is the sole propriator or a partner. If the family business is an LLC, INC, etc, then age of the child is a factor.