Thread: No Interest in Sex or Dating

just an update. a funny thing happened yesterday at work (i'm a librarian). this (adorable) guy that had been chatting me up a while ago - long story short, he proposed a drink, i never called him, and i lost his phone number - came in for the first time in a few months. we had a very nice chat, and I was surprised to find myself disappointed when he left the library last night and no drink plans had been made between us. so i've...

Quote: Originally Posted by joelr There is a "statistical normal" in terms of who does what but I haven't encountered anyone ever passing judgment on someone just because they don't want sex or a relationship. I've encountered quite a few judgmental people about this.. probably more than 5. __________________ "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you...

Quote: Originally Posted by SMA Hmmm...this isn't stuff I usually discuss with people. Welcome to the forum.

Quote: Originally Posted by SMA Wow, I've got kind of the opposite situation...I'm in a relationship with a man I love very much, and with whom I have have a deep and valued connection. He is not interested in sex, as in almost never. This has almost broken us up many times, especially as I am a very sexual person and find this to be almost intolerable...he says he simply doesn't have a lot of sex drive and I've had to...

OhTen; Some very insightful points in your last post there...best of luck! BeTrade: thanks for your response. You'll note that I said I would NOT have 'no strings attached' sex within my current relationship - absolutely not. That's not even an issue, and we certainly talk about everything, including this rare sex betweeen us...funny enough, he's been up for (grin) sex twice this week. Fun. I know we are creators and...

I am a male who feels the same way and everyone, including my family, thinks it is bizarre that I don't feel like dating someone and don't really care much about sex or sexuality. It's just not that big a deal in my life and I don't feel I suffer from it, so why do people label me abnormal or weird because I simply just do not care to have a relationship or have sex? But then again, I just don't care what they think,...

It sounds to me that sex is more "spiritual" than "animal" for you. I think this happens with more conscious people. After all, the exchange of sexual energy can leave us empty if we give too much away or exchange with lower energies who would drain higher energies. Perhaps its a matter of "socializing" with people more like you. I do not think there is anything wrong at all and it has...

Hey ohTen, I had a quick look at your blog and it looks really interesting. The article on effective music practice looks good. Also, I like anyone who uses the word 'ersatz' in a sentence! I recognise your current state of mind. I've just recently come out of a similar stage... just not being interested in dating anyone, and not missing sex. It sort of came from the same place yours did... a short relationship that was so...

at the moment i have no interest in sex or dating either. i have toys and fun movies i can watch if the urge arises. far less complicated that way. and yet, people think i must have some huge flaws for being single. why do we even have to use the phrase 'single by choice'? i definitely understand your perspective here. i hope it isn't rationalization... a kind of 'wow, that didn't work, so i'm going to pretend i...

There is nothing wrong with not making sex a high priority sometimes. I think everyone going through some periods in their life when they don't lots of sexual drive. However, if you go months and months without not a single sexual thought (not even a fantasy or a masturbation), that is unusual, no matter your culture. Depression, stress, health issues, self image problems, or traumatic previous experiences are all reasons a person may...