Thread: Lying Spouse - Couples Coping: Support Group at WebMD

Replying to: Lying Spouse My husband does have some issues with making an impression, seeming successful, etc. He grew up with very little money with a lot of pressure to "be the man" in the family after his dad left because he was the oldest. He learned to lie when he was abused as a kid by a babysitter and never told anyone. He feels like a fraud and lives in fear that someone will find out he's not as put together as he...

Replying to: Lying Spouse I have a cousin who found out the same thing about her husband earlier this year, and she's still reeling. He had cleaned out almost everything they had -- about $50,000. He did the same thing your husband did regarding the accounts -- wouldn't give her the passwords, and even had at least one account she didn't know about. He stopped paying the bills, which she found out when she started getting...

Replying to: Lying Spouse First I wanted to tell you how sad i am to hear you are going through this and how devasted you must be. You will now have no choice but to take charge. You said he was going for counseling--are you sure? Do you go with him? Yes--this is a problem he created--but now--if you feel you want to stay married to him--this is for both to fix. This will not be easy-- The lies started when the spending started i am thinking?...

Replying to: Lying Spouse I think it can work out (if that is what you want to happen) if he agrees to turn over management of the finances to you. I don't think you will be able to fully trust his handling of the money until a little time passes and you see his efforts to be more responsible. If he is truely sorry about misleading you and lying to you, maybe the fact that everything is out in the open will give him the opportunity to...

Replying to: Lying Spouse I'm so sorry this happened to you. It must be terribly lonely not being able to confide in friends. Still, I think you can put things back together if he is willing to be honest and mend his ways. I hope his counselor is persistent in making him think about why he spent more than he had. Was he trying to maintain a fiction of having lots of money and success? Does he need to impress people? I ask because I lost...

Replying to: Lying Spouse Hi Maggie...I don't have ur issues but I do have trust issues about affairs and such... We are broke anyways I know that I am laid off work...But my husband had issues I can't handle...he's cheated on me numerous times and I still stay with him and I know he has a problem because he is on porn sites almost daily on the computer...but I still LOVE him...I've been with him over 17 years... and I...

Replying to: Lying Spouse You received excellet advice. Regarding your daughter you should let her know what is going on. Maybe she can transfer to a cheaper college or she can apply for a student loan in her name. Are you sure that your husband doesn't have a gambling addiction? Because if he was "buying" things (how else is a credit card maxed out) wouldn't you have seen the evidence? I hope that you are able to obtain...