Thread: Losing erection

Your message is quite complex, and the question you ask appears to be more sexual function than psychological. The question you ask falls into (my) domain of psychosomatic pathology. To wit, is he having erectile dysfunction because he is thinking of his new girlfriend and feels guilt or is he having erectile failure because of sexual fatigue from his being depleted by her. So, let's ...

Except for the beginning of our relationship sex wasn't frequent, he is always tired, he works nights then went to an intense school program, he never gets enough sleep. But I'm sure now between us both he is getting 3 times more sex than he has ever been used to. Why was he all into foreplay? He was never one for foreplay, maybe once out of 20 times. He had no trouble maintaining an ...

I do not know his age, general medical condition, her age, your age, her appeal, his appeal...etc. So we are discussing this more from a mechanical standpoint. Why he wants to have foreplay? She may have taught him that it is pleasurable. If it is missionary position intercourse, and he "has" to look at you, then you have a valid point that looking at you evokes guilt...during ...

We never stopped having sex, but he says I want it and it's fun so we continue. As for why he cheats on her, I don't know. He's 34, I'm 42 and she is 23. Yes I know the appeal of a new relationship especially with someone younger and more appealing. With the exception of him having a sore penis and knowing he was having lots of sex the previous 12 hours with both of us, I really ...

Guilt certainly sounds the most plausible explanation. You have to decide whether you wish to relief him of the guilt if you want a sexual relationship with him. If, on the other hand, you merely want to keep yourself in the game, he may be capable of sensing the difference. She is ~20 years younger. That's stiff competition.

I'm kind of confused. How do I maintain a sexual relationship with him while relieving his guilt? What difference would he sense if I wanted to stay in the game. Sorry I need your reply to be more specific. Yes she is 20 years younger and was all I thought he wanted. But recently found out there are things about her that are the same as me and what he doesn't want.

This is not a forum for treatment or extended consultation. You asked for an explanation of possible causes of his E.D. Those we have now discussed. The situation appears to have many factors involved which the two of you may wish to discuss together and/or with a neutral third party. Good luck, and I hope the you find the solution you seek.