Thread: Is it in our nature

Guess I will come back with how I really feel and 'sweet tna' touched on it. I believe that people are different each unique male female whatever... each of us the 'rules' are different for and we share with those most who's set of standardards match our own closest. But we all are unique... Are we prone to the faithful pairing of a couple? Are we prone to giving ourselves to multiple partners... are we capible of...

Quote: Originally Posted by little firefly Well, I'm a monogamous woman in a serious relationship with a swinger. I'll admit that yes I do notice when I see good looking men but in all honesty I've never had even the slightest desire to be touched by anyone but my NDN. I've never felt limited or that I've been missing out on anything (we have a very good sex life). For me it has nothing to do with religious beliefs...

Quote: Originally Posted by Chicup I am going to briefly get all evolutionary biology on you and state that for humans MONOGAMY (yes all caps) is the natural order. Now before everyone gets up in arms, its the natural order for a hunter gatherer people, which our genes are mostly adapted to. Its also completely normal to have affairs without our partners knowledge. Basically we are designed for one mate who we will cheat on. Added while we...

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Quote: Originally Posted by Chicup Give it 10 years lol....nah, i don't think so. I was actually married 15 years and was monogamous throughout the relationship without ever having a desire for anyone else but him. WE divorced when we found ourselves wanting different things out of life (our sex life was never an issue though)......I guess I'm just a strange breed, but that's ok, i like being strange

If it's what you want, it's what you want. Not everyone will like it or agree with it. If your partner wants a monogamous relationship, you're probably won't be able to change his/her mind. If your partner wouldn't mind (heck, maybe wants to go for) a polyamorous relationship, the you're good to go! I don't know about being monogamous or polyamorous being in our nature. I can see both sides. I think it's...

Quote: Originally Posted by Professor_Zoom I've had this on my mind for a while now, but is being poly, and even swinging in our nature? Society says that you are only allowed to love one person. Monogamy and marriage are religious concepts. We could spend countless hours debating this. It is natural to be attracted to people we find physically or intellectually fascinating, man or woman. It is possible to love many people equally if not...

I've had this on my mind for a while now, but is being poly, and even swinging in our nature? Society says that you are only allowed to love one person. If a woman is sitting in the park with her two boyfriends and her two girlfriends, and she is openly affectionate with all of them, people will look at her like she the biggest slut, when in fact she loves each of them. I know people look at swingers and must think, "Oh my God,...

Who's to say what is right and what is wrong? Or what is natural and unnatural? The same people with different opinions, no matter how strong, still breath the same air is you or I. If it's right and natural for you, then you and your partner are the only ones who deserve justification. Just make yourself happy. I constantly hear biased views and varying opinions on the topic and while I find the conversation entertaining at times, I...

Could not agree more.