Thread: How "out" should poly people be?

I guess I haven't addressed the article... When meeting new people, we don't try to hide our relationship at all. It's a case of this is my life now. If you want to know me, this is part of who I am. Letting family and others who knew us previously know about this is the hardest. If any of those ask, of course, I will not lie about it. At this point, my children and my mom and all but one of my sisters know. Except for...

Hang in there Vol! I've experienced the weird not-quite-letdown but not-much-of-a-relief feeling when you tell someone and their reaction is not anything like what you imagined. It's a bizarre feeling, isn't it? Not quite sure what they think, whether telling them helped anything... if they would just engage on the subject and have a frank exchange, there could be some semi-resolution. But that doesn't necessarily happen,...

Vol, Your family loves you, you are your mother's daughter, and your sisters sister. It is very possible that they will have thoughts about your situation. They may or may not ask you about it later after they have had time to digest what they already suspected. I any event, they will still love and care about you. S

Thank you so much for being willing to share your story. Your willingness to be honest is encouraging.

Savage Love Letter of the Day | Slog | The Stranger, Seattle's Only Newspaper Letter from a poly couple looking for advice on how "out" they should be.

My family knows and has known for many years, long before our triad. Jen's family knows and doesn't approve but only occasionally gives her grief about it and since they live half a continent away it's not a day to day issue. Liz's parents don't know, but her sister and their family does. All of our close friends know and most of our social circle knows. We don't hide our relationship but we also don't...

Quote: Originally Posted by gatorvol64 I was in an odd mood afterwards and just wasn't up to posting about this last night. Today I've decided to just be optimistic about things. Thanks for sharing Vol. I think the the mixed emotions one feels after having that kind of conversation with family over a difficult issue is a completely normal. When the subject is very important to you on a deep level, but they fail to engage enough to...

Thanks for the article, Julie, and thanks, Vol, for sharing your story. I hope you'll keep us updated. As to the article, I'm with NCMD in that I'll be honest if asked directly about my other relationship, and with The Fuse in that it's not my place to say how "out" another should be.

Quote: Originally Posted by gatorvol64 I guess I haven't addressed the article... When meeting new people, we don't try to hide our relationship at all. It's a case of this is my life now. If you want to know me, this is part of who I am. Letting family and others who knew us previously know about this is the hardest. If any of those ask, of course, I will not lie about it. At this point, my children and my mom and all but one...