Thread: Houston, we have a problem!!! How to set up a MFM with a vanilla friend??

Re: Houston, we have a problem!!! How to set up a MFM with a vanilla friend?? Quote: Originally Posted by mixtupcpl I'd consider this a full stop red flag. We have a close vanilla friend couple whom we decided to "feel out". Not because we would ever want to play with them, but more because we were considering telling them about us. It was a fun conversation because they were very open to it and talked about whether or...

Quote: Originally Posted by mind_boggler A couple of days ago, I casually did bring up discussion about the lifestyle with something like.."Hey, I read an article which explained etc etc...". His reaction was of mild amusement after which he changed subjects without any effort on contributing anything more. I'd consider this a full stop red flag. We have a close vanilla friend couple whom we decided to "feel...

No surprises in a situation like this. Either discuss it up front in a casual way or have the mrs. flirt and tease with him while he is there to get a feel for his willingness. But play it cool.....you probably don't want to loose your best friend by assuming something. Many years ago in another marriage, living thousands of miles away from me now, I had a male best friend who was single....he lived maybe 25 minutes away from us and I...

Boggler, If you have read around the board, you will see that there are mixed results when bringing vanilla friends into your sex life. I don’t know how close you are to this guy, or if you share porn pics back and forth like some friends do. Things like that. But you need to assess the possible fallout of doing this. Who he can tell, friends, family, co-workers if things go bad. Things like that. I would talk to him in advance, and...

We started with MFM with a very close friend. The difference was, though, he and his wives were already swingers, and he had experience with MFM. And we both think to this day that's what made it successful - we had fantasized, but he had been there before and knew what to expect, and in a way he directed it. Our second MFM was with a vanilla friend. I won't bore you with the details but it didn't end well. He was very...

My advice? 1. Find out/re-confirm how "vanilla" he truly is. Have a "soul-baring" conversation with him. You don't need to go into explicit detail, you just need to find out whether he's amenable (or maybe experienced) with having threesomes or any sort of non-"missionary, under the covers with the lights off" sex If he's done it before, you can use his information to decide...