Thread: Finding out your friend is a level 3 sex offender... (long)

Yeah, level 3 is high risk to reoffend. I don't think it has anything to do with being forgiving justme. At least not for me. I have nothing to forgive him for, but if it had been one of my kids there's no way in hell I'd be forgiving. Its not my forgiveness he needs, its the forgiveness of that child and his family. Whether or not he is forgiven, that doesn't mean I have to associate with someone who was able to do that...

i hope you guys dont get mad at me-but i cannot express to all of you enough-hard enough-loud enough-to never ,ever let your babies be around anyone who is a known molester-or rapist-i cant explain the hurt and the pain it has caused in my life-i have memories that still kill me to this day! i cry,when i see babies hurt,and young ladies and young men too-yes ladies and gents-woman do this crap too-keep your babies as close to you as...

Quote: Originally Posted by Jolie Rouge : That's what friends are for ... Exactly!

Yes you are right, the kids come first.

Quote: I don't think she is questioning what needs to be done, I think OP was more or less needing to talk to ppl about this. Trying to get input and get some of what she is feeling and going through off her chest. I am sure Diana is going through all kinds of emotions right now and just needed to bend our ears : That's what friends are for ...

Diana, my DH is very very very antisocial too. I know what you mean about your DH finding that one person he clicks with. Unfortunately the last 2 he has found are drunks, which now means my DH drinks more than he has the first 10 yrs we were married. Fortunately he isnt a " drunk" ( yet) but still. With hubbies like ours, its not so easy to go out and find friends or bring them home. DH has this one good friend.. I mostly...

I definitely hear you and feel real bad for the guy if he truly has changed..... But, one never knows. And I would never forgive myself if I trusted him and something happened to one or more of my children. It''s unfortunate, but I cannot give him the benefit of the doubt where my children are concerned. I would always try to error on the side for my children. It's my children first.

I like this guy even less now that I know he actually spent the night at your home, with your children, BEFORE admitting to this... now my mind is running wild with what he may of potentially "accidently" did to your kids. Lord I hope I'm wrong but I'd so be talking to these kids one on one... making sure there was no accidental anything.

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Wow, that is definately a sticky situation. If I were ever faced with it I'm not exactly sure how I would react, so I have no advice for you, but I completely understand the anger that you and dh have towards him; with you having children the guy should have told you, but then on the other hand he was scared of losing the friendship. I like to believe people can change, but I wouldn't want to put my kids in a situation that is a...