Thread: Call the ex?

Quote: Originally Posted by MyWave Act now while supplies last! This is a high-pressure sales/con technique that many emotional predators use. They exude supreme confidence and a “you should be so lucky to have me” attitude. They “casually” mention other men who are interested in them and how their exes keep trying to win them back. This is a device used to trigger a sense of scarcity and competition within you. You then go to great...

Quote: Originally Posted by Jackson7777 What's a cluster-B type? Cluster B are personalities that are highly dramatic, both emotionally and behaviorally. Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic, and Histrionic Personality are in this group. Below is a link that gives a cliff notes explanation of each...very informative http://counsellingresource.com/distr...ing/index.html

Quote: Originally Posted by Jackson7777 I think she mentioned the other guys because she was insecure around me and wanted to make herself seem worth something by telling me how other guys want her. I agree. Quote: Originally Posted by Jackson7777 This shit still pisses me off, though. I have this "How dare that little bitch try to make ME jealous!" type of feeling pop up when I think about this. It was a test...and it...

Quote: Originally Posted by MyWave Act now while supplies last! This is a high-pressure sales/con technique that many emotional predators use. They exude supreme confidence and a “you should be so lucky to have me” attitude. They “casually” mention other men who are interested in them and how their exes keep trying to win them back. This is a device used to trigger a sense of scarcity and competition within you. You then go to great...

George, I was in the same boat with my graduation this past May. I actually ended up not going to the ceremony since I didn't feel like waiting 3 hours, and 5,000 students later just to hear my name. She ended up texting me that day to congratulate me, but I ALMOST asked her to be there. Glad I didn't. You're right, there are many times where you'll feel that urge to ask her to be somewhere for you. Just be a good ender as...

Quote: Originally Posted by Jackson7777 She started talking about other guys a lot and about how other guys wanted her. "Fine, go be with them. Have fun." Whenever something like this comes out of a woman's mouth, it is an automatic epic FAIL on their part. It doesn't matter if you've been with them for 5 days, 10 months, or 15 years. This isn't a shit test, or her trying to see if you care about her -...

Quote: Originally Posted by Boricua "Fine, go be with them. Have fun." Whenever something like this comes out of a woman's mouth, it is an automatic epic FAIL on their part. It doesn't matter if you've been with them for 5 days, 10 months, or 15 years. This isn't a shit test, or her trying to see if you care about her - she is simply wanting to exert power over you and using blatant manipulation to do so....

Tell us more specifically about the mildly disrespectful things that she did. Sometimes recovering NGs can understate actions. I thought similarly about some things that my ex did, but my therapist characterized the behaviors as being abusive. In hindsight, I have to agree with him so I am concerned that you may be downplaying something because you miss the pussy.

My $0.02, FWIW: I'm with GeorgeWSmith on the PUA-style recommendation of GFTOW. Personally, I don't see much positive coming out of that, I think that doing so is simply a short-term distraction. Besides, PUAs have women and the pursuit of women at the centre of their universe (not unlike NGs) and we all know how constructive that is. Where GWS and I disagree is the idea that a drunk person's words are somehow indicative of the...

Sounds like you made the right decision. Why do you care if she comes to your performance? Who are you performing for? (I believe the correct answer is you are performing for YOU). GFTOW!