Thread: Avoiding the unavoidable!

Oki thanks guys for the advice, but I got some serious updates.. I get an sms in the morning from her, she asks if I'm gonna make it to her b-day clubbing night, I replied "nope I can't". She was like "Are you gonna give me a reason to make me feel better", I was like "My dad is coming back tomorrow, and I haven't seen him in a long time" she was like "Ok "...

you're sunk. she's got you on a string and she's yanking.

Quote: Originally Posted by FrOzhinS Thanks for the advice, but I don't think am ready to move on and go gf hunting. I also think that she wouldn't care much, she would actually be glad that I moved on.. So move on.

Quote: Originally Posted by FrOzhinS Was it a good idea cutting her out of my life completely? Yes

I think you're trying way too hard to pretend like you don't care. It's OK to still care, but trying to avoid her just to send her the message that you're done is stupid. If want to really be done with it, be done with it. Make the decision now, accept it, and deal with the pain how any other man would. Stop running from it.

I agree that I think you're trying to project to her that you don't care. You do care, just accept it. That being said, you didn't have to explain to her why you deactivated your fb. What are your current boundaries with her? Do you even want to hear from her? If you don't, tell her to leave you alone.

Glad to hear your moving on. Sounds as though she has been stringing along both the jerk and you. Sounds as if maybe she initially decided to go with the jerk but they had it out and that is when she re-contacted you. She kept the jerk in her orbit and was in the process of making him work his ass off for a second shot... You sensed this and listened to your intuition. Good work cause your right. this one cannot be trusted Her loss. Your the...

Quote: Originally Posted by FrOzhinS I just need a couple of weeks and hopefully I'm going to be on the dating scene again. Don't put a timeline on getting over her. Do a search on 'grieving process'. There's a series of emotions you'll be going through and understanding what those are will allow yourself to completely experience each one which should make you stronger for your next relationship. It doesn't...

what would a normal guy do? How is the book and excereises coming along?

Quote: Originally Posted by decades you're sunk. she's got you on a string and she's yanking. not only that but this girl is in college and there is hardly a shortage of men to date. On a string or being used as a spare tire in this emergency until she moves on. Already wasted to much time talking / texting. A simple I hope you have a great birthday, I am not your enemy we are just people who used to go out. No bad thoughts I...