Thread: Arrogance.

[QUOTE=Andy4;450704] Quote: If memory serves me right Brendanz is about 27 which is only 6 years older than my eldest son but I have a genuine soft spot/regard for him, even if he does steal my best ideas, I'll never let you get away with that one, especially as the Kiwis have just whipped us at rugby, AGAIN. You guys beat us in the rugby league though guess it evens out. But hearing that Scotland beat Australia in Rugby is more...

Thanks guys, Especially Brendanz and Parthon. If memory serves me right Brendanz is about 27 which is only 6 years older than my eldest son but I have a genuine soft spot/regard for him, even if he does steal my best ideas, I'll never let you get away with that one, especially as the Kiwis have just whipped us at rugby, AGAIN. Parthon, I loved what you said about your dad and as someone on this thread said to me I will re-iterate their...

Are you ok Andy?

I think you should ask your kids.

Quote: Originally Posted by midasgirl Are you ok andy? :d :d :d

I've raised 4 kids and I have always used positive reenforcement. Not a single on of them has ever given me the least bit of trouble. Being too hard, condemnation and the like just build resentment. You ask what your kids want. That's simple. they want your love; and your time; not necessarily in that order. You can be a disciplinarian yet still not scare your kids. If they reach a point where they fear your responses or reactions,...

My dad and his dad were kind of tough on each other all their lives. They loved each other a lot, but in the end I think it was a bit unfortunate that they didn't express it as much as they should have. I'm a girl, but I think as long as parents give their kids plenty of support they should be fine. As a rule of thumb, supporting is better than pushing. I don't know if some people thrive under harsh parental demands, but...

I think that if you think that you're arrogant, then you are being arrogant. Arrogance is a state of mind, not an overt action, so if you think it then you are it.

Quote: Originally Posted by Andy4 I want advice from younger people, I'm very tough on my step boys, who I really love and I think love me but my dad was hard on me and his dad was hard on him, yeah, yeah ,yeah. What you want from your dad,? thanks. It depends on what you mean by tough and how old they are? How do you show them you love them? As far as my dad goes, I remember when my parents allowed me to go out clubbing with my friends...

My dad was hard on me, and his dad on him, yada yada yada. My dad couldn't be a dad. He didn't know how to keep the family together, and he definately didn't know how to show his love to his children. My parents split up when I was a teenager, and now, 15 years later, myself and my brother don't talk to him. It's not a case of whether or not you are arrogant, but on what impact you want to have on your family, and what...