Thread: Am I being selfish or is he??

I don't think it's a case of either of you being selfish. I think you are just 2 different people with 2 different thought patterns on this. As a business owner in this economy, I can certainly understand him being depressed and wanting to be alone with his thoughts, especially considering the number of family members that will be there. I do think though, that after a day or so, the relaxation will help ease the tension he's...

I think you have to ask yourself what's worse: forcing him to hang out with you and the kids knowing he will do nothing but pout and scowl and ruin your good time, OR go hang out with the kids alone have a great time and let him pout alone by himself? Personally, I wouldn't want him around harshing my mellow, so I'd leave him in the cabin or whatever and go have fun. It's a cruise ship, its not like you guys can go very...

I think you are right about the thought of him being depressed. I go on vacation JUST to spend time with my family. Does he just not want to spend time with "his" family (since 26 is a whole lot of family at one time) or everyone? Personally I wouldn't enjoy doing much with my whole family at one time because they would get on my nerves. I would however jump at the chance to spend quality time with my wife and kids. I...

Long story short, my husband and I were given a cruise last Christmas and we are going with his family (26 of us, including kids) next week. My husband and I haven't had any money for a really long time. He runs his own business which hasn't done well since day 1 for the last 5 years and we've borrowed $$ from every family member and taken out so many loans just to keep it running that we are POOR! I do daycare out of our home...

Part of being depressed is being unable to visualize yourself having a happy time. Let him be until you are on the ship, then encourage him to sample some of the fun. His whole family will be there, surely you will have plenty of help in getting him out of his shell. Even if he is being churlish and unwilling, it will be very hard for him to snub all the relatives, especially as his family is forking out for the trip. Cheers, Sera

No, that doesn't really make sense: going on a cruise and wanting to be left alone, reading a book or sleeping? Then, it would be better for him to stay at home... By the way, is he really depressed or ... a hater of mankind? Yes, I think he is being selfish and if you allow me, somewhat contradictory. To be among the crowd and to demand to be ignored? Come on. It would be wiser of him to be on both sides: 50% or a little more of the time...