Thread: Afterwards connections

It wouldn't be normal for us. While we do tend to keep in touch with those we have played with, we rarely have in depth sexual conversations with them unless we are all together. Why do you ask? I get the feeling that their is more to your question, and we would be able to give a better answer if we knew more details.

I have a question for any of you folks out there that are in this lifestyle. Is it normal to keep in contact with those that you have played with, and have sexual conversations without your partner there....Very in depth conversations only to stuble upon it a day or two later?? Bobcat

I can't say if it's normal as everyone is different. There's one couple we are friends with, and live 5 hours away. We have played with them a few times. They do not have a computer. So we regularly talk to them via calle phone on our own, me with the women and my wife with the man. Some of those conversations get a little spicy! I (the male half) also like to chat online. My wife is not as big into that. I have chatted with our...

All other issues aside, the point is that you and him have already discussed this issue. Specifically, that you don't want him reliving intimate moments with former partners or acting out imagined moments with others, i.e., cyber sex. Apparently, he doesn't see it as a problem and you do. I'm square down on your side with this one, you just haven't got his attention. As much as I hesitate to turn on my own kind, being a...

There is a trust issue involved here. I have kept up friendships with playmates separately, sometimes just conversation and intercourse. My wife is never concerned about that because there is no threat to our marriage, and she knows how much I like the alternative companionship. It pleases me that she that she is so accepting of this quirk in my needs and does not demand that I give up the friendships with other women.