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A few months ago I found something that my fiance wrote, he was wrting something to get the thoughts out of his head and we both do this alot. We totally respect each others privacy but we were moving and I was throwing things away and the bottom of a page caught my attention. It said he was afraid he might cheat on me because he is not that physically attracted to me. I know he would never ...

this must be very hurtful. i am sorry you had to read such a horrible thing. this happened a FEW months ago? have you even talked to him about it? you said you were never in denial that he does not think your body is nice....why would that be? what does he say that indicates to you that he is not attracted to you? and why did he marry someone he is not physically attracted to? .....you...

I am not in denial about my own body. He has never said anything. I mean when we have sex I try to turn the light off and he wants it on. I know that a while ago when he thought I found something else he said all that stuff is old and I dont feel that way anymore. I know it was old because it was in a box we had not opened since we moved fromm our last house. I have not said anything, I ...

Even if he's not a cheater, he sounds very superficial (which is, oddly, one of the warning signs for a cheater), and you have self-esteem issues that are probably partly caused by him. POSTPONE THE WEDDING!! This is a huge deal. Even if he doesn't cheat, do you want to feel this way around him forever? Is this the sex life you want? (You're signing up for a lifetime of it by marrying him...

I think you need to talk to him about this ASAP!! Does he know that you found that? This is not healthy. A HUGE factor in a relationship is communication and he needs to know how hurt you are by this. Also, you say he won't cheat because he is not like that, but don't be so sure. If he is not physically attracted, he might. again something you need to talk about ASAP! I'm so sorry that you ...

He has never said one word to me, he tells me nothing is wrong with me. This is something he wrote for himself without any intention on me seeing it. He would never say anything to hurt my feelings. I guess I just don't know if this is a big deal. Is it a neccesity for your husband to be attracted to you. Does it mean he does not love me?

what omg said. postpone the wedding, or call it off. sex is a BIG deal in a successful marriage!

That seems easy to say call it off. I love him, he loves me. Is that really the solution? We have sex twice a week, its not like its never. I just want to every night and he does not.

Is it a neccesity for your husband to be attracted to you. Does it mean he does not love me ? You tell me. It doesn't matter what he has said to you - you are questioning whether the man you are marrying in 74 days loves you . Apparently you don't feel all that loved, and yes, that is a huge red flag, and won't change after marriage. You HAVE to talk to him about this. You're signing up ...

I am sooo happy. We both are. We ger along and laugh together non stop. Isn't it possible for someone's appearance to change after falling in love with them? If he wrote this in the very beginning? I know there are things about him that change the way I saw him after we were really in love. I hate to call of the wedding.