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I need some advice from you guys! Recently I started snooping on my boyfriend's phone and it has become an addiction. I need to stop doing it but besides resisting the temptation I think I need to deal with my deep rooted problems of insecurity and paranoia, so that the temptation/mistrust will be gone (I don't want to have to think about going through his phone every time I'm alone with it!)....

It may be difficult to overcome paranoia and insecurities, but you will be already a winner if you just don't let them tell you what to do. The only way of stopping snooping on his phone is simply not doing it again. Stay away from it, if necessary, or whenever the curiosity starts to hit you, find something else to do. It may be difficult to forget past injuries and disappointments, but ...

I was exactly the same as you, Ty. In my last relationship, I snooped in my bf's phone whenever I got the chance. I would question him relentlessly if I found out that his ex-gf had called or texted him. I would interrogate basically. It wasn't just snooping through his phone, either. I snooped into everything that I could get a hold of. E-mails, old letters, pictures, etc. I am really ashamed ...

It's really unfair for you to punish this guy for whatever happened to you in your past relationships. It's not his fault that you were cheated on. So you're going to have to find a way to get over it fast, because majority of guys will not tolerate being punished for something they haven't done nor have any intentions of ever doing. You may just have found a good guy for once but you'll end ...

I'm kinda goin through the same thing rite now. My boyfreind and I were on different shifts at work for a while after bein use to being together all the time. We started to grow apart cause of the distance. Now we are on the same shift again for about 2 months now and nothing has changed. Hes always on the computer and not spending nearly enough time with me. I thought me goin to the same ...

Good advice so far. Don't mention the text. An honest man will tell you about it. Whether he sees her or not. Then you will get an indication of how much he values you.

Thanks for all your advice. Yes I definitely need to stop snooping and I will. It is extremely unhealthy, and yes not to mention it is invading his privacy and it is not something I would like him to do to me. And if he wants to cheat, snooping is not going to stop/prevent it. I just need to trust. I am trying really hard to work on the trust issue on my own. I know I need to realize that...