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I was in a very similar situation! The guy didn't do a thing about it, and eventually I got over him. He still aparently likes me now, but I've moved on...he still has a girlfriend by the way. So, as far as I'm concerned he can stay with her.

its also a lovely thought but an expensive 1! id just accept it and he will understand the reason you havent spent as much..3 days 2 go doesnt leave u much time...however the sales will be on soon lol. me and my partner had an agreed amount 2 spend but i couldnt help but get a suprise 4 him as we no the things we are giving each other. its not over board just an extra £30 2 what we agreed but i no he will like it and its money better...

I think I know where you are coming from on this. When you aren't used to being treated much like you count (not necessarily from him) and he's given mixed messages - says don't spend and then spends and you'd had a bit of a tiff on top of it, it's confusing. Apparently whatever you were upset abouthe doesn't regard as deal breaker and he must really want to spend time with you learning to cross country. Learning...

I asked him what he wanted last week and he told me he'd like some clothes but only to go to the 2nd hand shop! It's true, I'm bad a receiving gifts so I"ll just have to suck it up, haha. He brought me a bunch of workout clothes that didn't fit him yesterday. So I think I'll go get him some that fit. ...and give him a b/j as per yellow's suggestion.

So nice to hear stories like this. Do what you think. You know this man's mentality and financial situation more than anyone here. Good luck.

Quote: Originally Posted by sourpuss Yeah! I would have wondered who the heck stole my boyfriend and spent a bunch of money on something the two of us think is silly. Then I would have punched him. I know what you mean though. I think the thing isn't that he got it, it's that he made a big deal out of not spending money on one another and then went out and spent a bunch of money. And to top it off he did it when we weren't...

Quote: Once, he tried buying me a bracelet for Valentine's after I gave him one for New Year's eve. However, his gift looked too big for my taste. I was honest and told him it was too big for my wrist. We went back to the jewler to try to find a second choice. I couldn't find anything that I like within the same price range, so he returned it and kept the money. I actually agree with OTYA.. It's the gift, and when a man...

Quote: Originally Posted by sourpuss I don't know what to do. I'd like to stick to our agreement and just plan a little getaway or something but now it's all awkward. Ultimately your call, but I think it was an incredibly sweet gesture I haven't had a guy do anything that nice for me since like 2006, and it still wasn't *that* nice. Enjoy it

I'm sorry....why is it akward? He got the bonus not you, and you two had an agreement so thats what you planned for. He didn't come to you and say "hun I got this bonus lets do xyz" Accept the gift because at the end of the day thats your dude and he can get whatever he wants to get for you. You must not be used to being spoiled...feels awkward the first time but after this it will be alllllll gravy baby

To me, personally, this is the best way that I've ever heard it described: Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of...