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Quote: Originally Posted by mrfunfan I think counseling will help and your advice just so I can be more sensitive and more patient..but we want to find a lifestyle friendly one. These are kink friendly counselors who have practice in this... Scroll down for one that might help.

LFM..I think you bring up some good points. Your right that after every sexual experience she has with others, the ride home is always me so anxious to talk about it but she is always quiet. I think she goes right into regret and denial and thinks there is something wrong with feeling good with someone else. Then she worries about why I want to be with someone else. I have no ulterior motive and she knows that in her heart but not in her mind....

mrfunfan, You may also potentially find kink aware/friendly providers here as well: AASECT :: American Association of Sex Counselors, Educators & Therapists Good luck,

HI There, I am going to come back to this....I hate it when time is so hard to find...but wanted to write something. My heart goes out to you. There are several things that feel very familiar for me here. So many, it'd not be really feasible to write it all in one post. I love what others have said. I'm just going by my own gut right now, forgive if it's repetitive...Definately, there are underlying issues here. I have seen this...

Y'know - maybe it's just the circles I run in... but MOST of the swingers I've met aren't exactly "Ken & Barbie"-types. A majority of them are average to heavy-set (some pushing into the extremely large sizes) ... and they've never had any problems finding partners to swing with. Maybe as a resident of So-Cal where we're just full of "plastic people" and "image...

To add to the points above... 1) Check spelling, grammar 2) Take an objective look at your profile...why would someone want to hookup? Give people a reason to reach out. Its often less about looks and more about presence and "mystery" A well worded profile goes a long ways in our mind.

One thing jumped out at us -- when you said you can't even talk about it because she becomes jealous -- that's a deal killer right there. Successful swinging always includes a key component of communication. That is talking, listening, and understanding. If you can't communicate about these things then playing with others seems to be out of the question.... IMO.

[quote=JustAskJulie;392244]I've seen many posts here over the years of folks who DID run into their children at clubs, and I've known (in person) a few couples who have found out that the parents or in-laws swing and vice versa. In those cases, I don't see the issue. Just be out with it and make a plan to avoid each other at events if necessary. But, be honest. now we have discused this maybe happening to us when our kids are...

First off, lets ask the biggest question that came to my mind while reading the ORIGINAL POST What in the hell, A "vanilla" couple finds out thier children are in the lifestyle and they came and asked the OP? Are you out to these people? If so, using terms like Immoral is a great way to win freinds and influence others, Esp in the lifestyle. We all "hear" stories of people running across relatives, and...

I want to keep an eye on this post. We are extremely shy and it is difficult for us to make the transition as well. Once we get going, look out! We met another couple. Met at a restruant for the first date. had dinner at their house for second. After dinner we went inside and i was thinking, woo hoo. No such luck. Me and Mrs Shy sat on the sofa and I was fondling her. We kissed a bit but nothing. I offered Mrs Shy that I could throw out...