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Thanks all. I know we can easily see that were making bad decisions, therefor how can we expect our swinging experiences to go well. Its funny how swinging sort of brings your flaw and your positive attributes as a couple to surface. We both can be too nice, and I especially can be too willing and open. This is all an eye opener. We are going to take a different approach, and have many couples contacting us one after the other this week, LOL,...

Find a couple that you connect with and have fun with and get some experiences under your belt with that couple where if Mr. Happy doesn't come up to play then it's not a big deal. Then if you want to setup a night of partying then go have fun but don't try to do both at the same time.

Piggy back / ditto what's been said already. The #1 problem here is alcohol impairing quite a number of things, setting yourself up for disaster every time. If you need alcohol to the point of being drunk to swing, you're not ready to swing. And, as others have said, for your husband it will have an impact on his performance ability. Swinging isn't a race. Slow down, find the right couple(s).

The drinking is definitely getting in the way. I (male) have also had problems w/ Mr Happy after drinking too much, and it is not as uncommon as you think. The two drink limit is a good idea until you get to know someone. Also the don't rush advice is great. Just take your time and find a few groups of people and you should have many many more enjoyable experiences. Also make up a code word between you two so as soon as you hear it either...

One thing we have learned in swinging is that there is never a rush. You don't need to run out and meet every couple you can. Take you time to choose what you want and don't be afraid to say no. Make your choices when you are sober or close to it. If you found the couple to not be attractive to you, then signal your SO early about that so the evening can come to a close without playing. And yes, you are drinking too much and that is...

Quote: Needless to say- WTF are we doing wrong here? Too much alcohol? Poor choice in couples? Moving too fast? Poor communication between hubby and I? Answer... all the above! Number one thing is too much alcohol. You cant make an informed decision if your plastered, also too much alcohol even if its one drink can have an effect on getting "up and happy".. With the last couple who got "cuter" as the night...

I would if I were you two is to start your meets in a place that for one doesn't serve alcohol. We tend to make first meets a coffee house or donut shop, if weather permits a local park, here in Canada I tend to believe that 25% of the customers sitting in a Tim Hortons coffee shop are swingers. As for the alcohol and getting it up, its not incommon for the male half in new swingers to have performance issues, most males...

You two need to make a choice. Lay off the Swinging or back off the drinking. The two are not mixing well with you guys.

NYFunCpl, Well, I think that you answered your own question. Yes, too much alcohol. It is ok to have drinks, but not to the point that it interferes with either your judgment or performance. Same thing with your partners. S

Quote: Originally Posted by lardub here in Canada I tend to believe that 25% of the customers sitting in a Tim Hortons coffee shop are swingers. LOL... I NEVER walk into a Timmie's anymore without looking around and wondering....