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Oh and now she just called me cause i left her with some diapers and money for bills and a new blanket and now she is laughing and giggling on the phone and even considering lunch or dinner tomorrow night ...... what in the world is going on in my wifes head ??? Her moods are so irregular right now and she wont consider her hormones are out of wack since we have a 6 month old baby and she had postpardom badly for our first kid and her 6 week...

He treated you that way because you let him. It is a huge ego boost for him to be such a skuz-ball and have a great woman like you crying and begging for forgiveness. You deserve so much better.

Quote: Originally Posted by beninneedofhelp But sadly it was not enough everything i have done for the better or to help her or offer to help has been recieved like im a poison apple.. well, dont resign yourself to being a martyr now. you are a poisoned apple and you'll have to deal with that. Im not saying that to make you feel guilty or to bring you down. we have all been poison apples to our spouses at some point. even im in the...

Trial sep - started (kind of) mid-week. Tonight's the first night the kids are with the wife - and I'm not enjoying the space like I thought I would Combo of feeling down and sorry for myself, and just being exhausted. Girls are carolling tomorrow - wife is taking them - I normally would, but I'm hoping that even if she doesn't get back in the "game" as an involved wife that she can become a more active...

Scarlet, you said "It looks to me like she has a long established pattern of closing herself off when she has problems or stress. I completely understand that as I did the same thing. It can be very easy to put up those walls, and very hard to break them down." so....how did you do it, and how can i help her? its not healthy to be walled up your whole life...and i think once she starts to break them down, she will explode...

Are the drug problems a result of his medical problems or was he into illegal drugs before that? He seems pretty quick to order you around without much to back up his position. I would be frustrated, too. Actually, if it were me I would get my obligations taken care of first (car payments etc.) by opening a separate bank account and getting full control of my paychecks...if he is that childish that drugs and entertainment come before car...

The 'ONE' is when you meet a person, and out of all your other options he/she seems the person you want to settle down with. Don't take it as 'there's me and somewhere out there there's the one, only one person that can make me happy'. No, there are plenty. It's like, there are many potential 'the one's ' out there, and out of all of them, you chose one, to be your 'one and only'...

Im hearing u loud and clear. Trying to keep my distance and lay off her, but like everyone is saying, it may to far gone now. Im dealing with that better now then 5 or 6 weeks ago. Thanks for the input.

Jdack, I really believe that outside the bedroom the magic words are: This is what I believe we should do are you ok with that? This way your wife gets to have input if she wants. If it is something she has already told you she doesn't care about - then I guess not even mentioning it is fine. I do believe that inside the bedroom - especially mid-cycle - there is no substitute for a totally dominant alpha approach. As for the rest of the...

Quote: Originally Posted by Jdack Big Bad Wolf/Nekko : I find your comments both very interesting. BBB- DO you think this domineering male taking control works in all relationship? I might agree that this may have been the way things were hundreds/thousands of years ago, but today and then are two different times and with female now working and being able to make their own career choices, and having different responsibilities now (working and...