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sacred dude, you've kept the communication lines open - that's a great start. Allow the venting to occur - you both come from different backgrounds and deal with anger, sorrow, disappointment, etc. in different ways. Work with your wife in the way she knows how to cope with these challenges - and yes, give her the space/holiday she needs. But be honest with yourselves about it - particularly your wife - she needs to tell the truth...

Not a whole lot to go on in terms of the "head games" and the history of it, however, I will give you my opinion. Online or not it is still cheating if there was an emotional connection established with a member of the opposite sex. If he is confiding in her, relying on her for emotional support, if he has done any cybering with her. It is cheating. At least in my book. To turn around and blame you for it is typical. If there...

Hi guys, Athlok, I live in Canada, so the pepper spray is legal here and I will definitely use it if I have to. However, I've spoken with my husband but before I talked to him, his parents did. His dad really made him understand that I'm someone's daughter/sister and may even be a mother one day. My husband's seen the hell his mom went through and he doesn't want to end up the way his dad used to be. So it was great...

One of my best friends on this earth told me when she was seeking counseling with her H, that the counselor told her "you can't put a bandaid on a gunshot wound, you need stitches". I think that applies to a lot of people when it comes to stuff like this. I can read in your posts and I feel you slowly slipping away, trying to protect yourself from anything else he could possibly do to make it worse. Thats a defense...

Quote: Originally Posted by scared dude06 Hello all, My wife tells me, after having to ask her what is really wrong. She tells me that she is not happy with us. Tells me all these things I have done wrong over the years, by the way we are high school sweethearts and dated for 7 years before wedding. We have now been married for 10 years and have 2 children together. She said she needed so time and space, so I have given her just that. I also...

I read it as well, wish I had read it earlier in my relationship, it makes a lot of sense and I think it should be read from time to time just so we don't forget what our responsibility is to our partners, we just let our relationships go thinking we can just take care of ourselves and the other will just accept that......comunication is key to any relationship and I'm all for any method that helps us perfect this..

Quote: Originally Posted by spidergirl I want to go back home, but how will I tell my parents? I can't hurt them, if my dad finds out that his daughter is going through hell, he will break down. I can't do that to my dad... I can't You're young. You can't understand the depth of your parents love for you, or the inner resources that your dad has to draw on. Helping you could even be the making of your dad. I'm...

thanks Weathered.... I have to agree with you... She feels that there not a "deep" connection... but all of our conversations she still says she loves me... Do you feel a connection is built by open and honest communication??? I do... I really think us living two separate lives did not help us much at all. When I mean separate I mean doing all sorts of things apart. We are very much alike that we do not communicate when we...

Not too amped about my situation considering that 60-70% of separations end up in divorce....

Thanks to both of you for your advice. I think an unexpected visit is in order. If anything, I might be able to get closure, if it comes to that. spidergirl, I hope your situation gets better. No woman deserves to go through what you're going through. Just know that there are still good men out there.