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Quote: Originally Posted by trynitey To me, CIO is letting your child cry themselves to sleep. To me, if you are going in every few minutes to calm your baby, you aren't letting them cry it OUT. You are still consoling them, comforting them. My opinion is that CIO is just that, letting your child cry by itself until they were done. ditto.

i think that yelling, just like spanking, has its time and place in parenting. i dont see anything wrong with a quick shout to deter dangerous behavior. but when the yelling is constant, just like when spanking is constant, it can be a problem and become ineffective, possibly abusive. we are always told to never spank out of anger, but how often are we told not to yell at our kids when we are angry? good example: as a Girl Scout leader, i have...

Dr Ferber, the guy who is credited with CIO, defines it like this: Quote: He [Dr. Ferber] recommends following a warm, loving bedtime routine and then putting your baby in bed awake and leaving him (even if he cries) for gradually longer periods of time. Putting a child to bed awake, says Ferber, is crucial to successfully teaching him to go to sleep on his own. Parents are instructed to pat and comfort their baby after each predetermined...

Quote: To elaborate, I will never let my child cry alone for any reason or any length of time, whatever hour of the day or night, if they cannot talk or sign. Andrea's definition of CIO seems to be different so it's hard to know what the definition is when debating it. If, after trying everything, they seem unresponsive, I using my learned mommy reading skills, realize that 1) they are overstimulated and need less touch 2) they are...

Jennifer, you are so sweet! Thank you for being so wonderful about this whole debate. I know it must be hard for you, especially as we are all friends Elizabeth, I understand what you mean about just wanting the same legal rights as the rest of the country. If there were a way of doing that without "marriage" per say, I'd be okay with that. However, I still can't be okay with two women or two men bringing children...

Quote: Originally Posted by Lainey It's all how your opinion is presented. Saying you disagree with something is one thing. Stating it in bold is completely different and an incredibly defiant way of getting an opinion across. Lainey, I feel like you're going to find something in what I say or how I say it no matter what . Here, you're criticizing me for my formatting .

Quote: Originally Posted by WolfySara That was a good metaphor, Cheryl. Of my three kids, Talia was the only one who was really fussy at night. Comparing what I had to do for her to what I had to do for Jackson and Tasha is probably like you comparing one of your REALLY high maintenance patients with the sweet little lady who never pushes her call button. How can parents whose children go to sleep easily really 'know' how they would...

Quote: Originally Posted by the Wrap Honestly, I am still in the dark ages because the idea of men in dresses is still highly disturbing to me. I am not good at ancient history, but didn't men wear dresses (robes) in the dark ages?

What do you all consider CIO? I feel like the people who don't CIO think that CIO is letting your child scream and cry for endless amounts of time. Those who I know who do CIO, myself included, tend to go in and calm the baby at predetermined intervals. I will also add that I know the difference between the I'm tired cry and the "My leg is caught in the crib" cry.

I am a yeller and not proud of that...my yelling has started getting beyond what I am comfortable with again. I actually looked up the therapist Cameron had been going to and called her today to see if we could reconnect and do family therapy. Me and the boys. I feel as they are getting older I am needing some help to better understand them and myself. I want a better way of communicating and honestly I really liked her.