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Your BFF is right. So if you don't like yourself now, why don't you change things and become someone that you can admire? You DO have the power to change yourself. P.S. Maybe tomorrow you can tell your family & friend that from now on when you start whining about the ex, to tell you that they don't want to hear it any more. It's gone on long enough. You know, you can either keep complaining & whining about...

If he is serious about getting back together and you want to be with him, go to counseling together. You go to counseling for yourself and your children. Parents are their children's first heroes and they don't want to believe anything bad. Your husband is acting like he is dating you and isn't sure if he wants to commit. When you are not ready to end a relationship and still love someone, it's hard to let go. Especially...

Wow. After reading your story I am even more convinced you need some time to yourself; dating should be the furthest thingfrom your mind. Of course the thought of being alone canbe scary which is why so manypeople choose to stay in unhappy,unhealthy relationships. They'll find ways to justify it in their mind but ultimately it comes down tofear. And as they say, a life lived in fear is a life half lived. It sounds as though you need to...

So I went to dinner at my STBX's house. My SIL knew about his infidelity. She told me under NO sercumstances will she EVER except her. She said that if he ever brought her around, she would have for spit in her face and kick her a$$. I love her....she's so awesome! Also, my other SIL (by marriage) and I had a LONG talk. She married my STBX's brother. Everyone thought she was a total b!tch, but after talking to her....we have...

First, I am so sorry...I feel your pain. Reading your post sent me into a Deja Vu. My STBX and I did that 5 years ago, got the same spiel from him too. My marriage up to that point (10years) wasn't wonderful, but I thought it was working. The last 5 years, and final year before he left, were miserable. I lost myself, starting having panic attacks, lost interest in my job/life... It's no easy decision at any time. But if you feel...

I don't know how old your son is but why not spend one weekend making Christmas Decorations and decorating your house with those. I am sure that you will treasure those more than any store bought item. As for music you can download songs from the internet and make CD for yourself. I am also thinking about the upcoming holidays, but more for my youngest because I am not sure where he will be or when or if he will be flying to the States...

He's what we call a fencesitter. He wants the both of you, he wants his cake and to eat it too. As long as you continue to allow him to see you and the OW, he won't change. Unless you tell him that he needs to get rid of the OW, go no contact with her and go to counseling with you, he will continue to see her and string you along as well. Stand up for yourself and your marriage. If you want this marriage and this man, he needs to be...

Thank you for the response. I'll check out the book. It's funny that you mention the stress in the house. There have been so many times when I can feel my stress level rise when I hear the garage door open. I just want some peace for myself and my children. And right now, I never know which DH will walk through the door. My first response when I think of divorce is a sense of relief...then I get so sad. I do love him, but I...

djbl, I think we all did marry the same guy. I know what you mean when you talk about the similarities among them. I can add to the list Cialis and strip clubs, but that's all. I'm beginning to believe they all came from the same caveman gene pool, for lack of a better explanation. What appalls me most, is their absolute lack of conscience. It must have all gone to ego and id, because they sure don't have a superego, so they...

Hi Musiclover. Thank you for replying. I think he is confused and his words and actions are confusing me. So I guess we both are confused. In a perfect world, he would come to me, admit he screwed up, accept responsibility for his actions and show true remorse. Then we'd go to counseling and work on our issues. But he has too much pride and hereally thinks he did nothing wrong. He said thatwhen he slept with someone, he wasn't...