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Hi Please don't take this the wrong way, but please don't get focused on specific dates.  I do appreciate that Christmas is special, but what I've found with my lot they were quite happy to have two celebrations.  The tree will twinkle just as brightly on the 22nd as it does on the 25th.  Father Christmas could do a special trip knowing that he's not with his dad on Christmas day.  Also, my ...

Hi I'm CL on the single parent board too, which is a bit quiet at the mo, so I'll put my reply there too. He will be able to go to Court and the chances are he will be given parental rights. Contact will need to be built up over a period of time.  It's very doubtful that any of his requests can be put into place this year anyway - as there's not much of it left.  He can't dictate ...

Hi I can understand your frustration here, and I'm sure your boyfriend is finding it difficult.  I really admire you too for trying to see the alternative.  It's difficult to know what to suggest, I'm sorry. Yes, consideration should always be given to the children before other things.  Perhaps she feels that this wasn't the case when he didn't see them on his contact time...  While I ...

Hi I can well imagine that being a shock. While we can offer you loads of support here, I'm not sure if we can quite help with advice of what to expect. I've added two links below where I feel you may have more suggestions.  The first is adoption and fostering, which I think could be a good avenue. http://messageboards.ivillage.co.uk/iv-ukpradopt the second is life as a ...

There's no such legal right for Christmas, fathers have just as much right to see their children and if you have had them for two years in a row then it is only fair that he has them this year unless there are reasons why he shouldn't. Why is the little one fretting? Is it a long way away or do they not normally have contact? If it is a problem, look into the possibility of sharing the day or...

Hi I'm guessing by now that there is no reason why your boyfriend cannot take the baby out for an hour or two.  At 10 months, this is a reasonable starting point for contact to be away from the mother. Is your boyfriend on the birth certificate?  Does he have Parental Responsibilities? He could put this to the mother as a starting point to build on.  If she refuses, then mediation could...

Hi Ana Sorry I've not got back to you sooner.  Far too late now, I know. He is messing up things big time, and there's nothing you can do about it.  If you do have plans, perhaps you could organise a babysitter and tell ex that he cannot see your son that night.  That way you know that your plans will not be cancelled at the last minute. I totally understand how frustrating this is, but...

Tbh, I don't have a lot of sympathy for your partner - he chose to have a one night stand & is as much responaible for it as the child's mother, emotionally & financiallyBUT if it really is all about money I would suggest he asks for a paternity test if he's not on the birth certificate & not being allowed to see his child. He might well find that cues contact again.  If it doesn't, the only way ...

Hi Sarah I think I spoke to you on another borad when you were considering your decision - glad you have made it and feel pleased with it! Regarding taking your daughter abroad to live (Southern Ireland is classed as abroad I think), your ex could take you to court over this issue I believe. If he has Parental Responsibility then he has more of a leg to stand on, but I think it's unlikely...

Hi I would say if he starts bashing your car in again, I would phone the police. Not a lot you can do if he chooses to break the Court Order.  You can have all your evidence ready when the matter goes back to Court to show you are sticking to the Order.  You can put forward your reasons for wanting a third party involved when he collects your daughter. Make sure you do keep a record...