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Thank you for your advice and kind words. Prayer is exactly what I need right now, thank you. What you said about the hurt never going away as long as he is around is so true. I don't think I could ever really please him. I have had true love before and this is NOT IT!!!! I wish your daughter the best and truly hope things get better for her. Right now I am trying to make it through this Christmas holiday. My daughter is so excited about...

I love this..can you elaborate more on this topic? I've often wondered if I've taken on some of my N husbands traits as a defense mechanism.. Such as selfishness. I learned over the years that he worries about himself and himself alone. In turn I feel I've turned selfish myself, and keep my own needs and wants at the top of my list ( and my kids of course) knowing that he's not worrying about them. I'm alway on edge...

Please excuse the typo in the Subject line - "NDP" should be "NPD"

Yes, it took me at least 25 years to learn to trust myself. It helps a lot to read SO MANY stories of women who feel just like me and have experienced the same confusion. I think that these narcissistic men do find non-empathetic women, they just can't stay with them. Only a seriously empathetic person can suffer this type, and only in such a relationship can a narcissitic man reveal his true self. If narcissism is a form of self...

Thank you Monabeeswa, for saying something that I was forced to do, in order to save my children from ending up adopting the behaviours of the Narcissistic Father. I believed and functioned on the basis that silence was not golden when it came to how my children were supposed to deal with and respond to their father's N behaviour. I cannot even begin to imagine how damaged my children would have become if I had followed the usual...

Saulsaud, my heart goes out to you. I have been married for 1 years to a man who has been verbally and emotionally abusive for most of that time. Same things you're talking about, telling me I'm horrible, that his family and friends think badly of me, that all things in our marriage are my fault, if I'd just done something differently.... I understand what you say about it sucking your soul out. I ended up believing I was...

legacy301 wrote: I am an independent woman with a very bubbly personality but he destroyed alot of that. I became depressed, I felt like I was nothing, He makes you feel like you are nothing and tore you down- who needs to be around a guy like that? NO CONTACT. It all hit a head at the height of my depression, I felt suicidal. When I ended the relationship with him that same week, he laughed at me and said I was 'unstable' and...

legacy I think you should stay no contact. Read what you wrote, what he did to you, way he treated you, If you are strong enough to go and "SEE" HIM for what HE" REALLY" is, to be sure you are done with him, then go and observe him and his pathetic act. You can not explain, talk things over, apply logic, or ever make sense of what he does and you will never have closure. Make no mistake, he is not in denial, he really...

Hello Arcastle, It is sad, It is sad that we have to make decisions that we really are not comfortable making in order to live. The only reason that I stay is that he is not a mean drunk. I know that sounds awful but I can't see messing up my family right at this moment. I am changing my attitude about myself after years of being scared, walking on eggshells, covering up things so he wouldn't yell. things like that. I now keep...

I'm not sure if the person i'm with -or should I say WAS with - is a narcissist, he has so many of the traits mentionned here.. but lately, he hasn't been manifesting these things, that's why I was wondering if it was possible to realize the wrong they've done and stop themselves.. anyway, I'm done with him... after so many break-ups and ups and downs, and 5 years of taking him back after the most hurtful things,...