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user's latest post:
Wife's emotional affair -...
Published (2009-11-08 16:34:00)
Quote: Originally Posted by decades actually I don't think this is an "emotional" affair. That's a term concocted by women. This is straight up devaluing him by her. It's like he's not even there. The guy hangs around with them? He's still contacting her? This is just him being a passive NG letting her get away with anything she wants with NO consequences. The problem isn't the other guy....
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how to handle her temper - Page...
Published (2009-11-06 14:37:00)
Quote: Originally Posted by checked Just skimmed the thread after reading the title -- and 2 thoughts come to mind. The first is "why HANDLE her temper at all"? Not your problem --even if the venom is directed at you. If she's being disrespectful then walk away --refuse to engage or give her back exactly what she is giving to you -- including the "hurtful" words. One thing that I started trying when my...
user's latest post:
Wife's emotional affair
Published (2009-11-08 16:12:00)
My advice to this situation is pretty simple. No 1 - Tell her the following. This is unacceptable and it has to stop and unless it does I am moving towards a divorce. I will only accept a functional relationship or divorce. No 2 - Don't talk to her much anymore unless she instigates the matter. Do not talk about the relationship / the kids etc. No 3 - Forget the intervention - its a form of trying to control her and it won't work....
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No More Nice Guy versus staying...
Published (2009-11-06 17:15:00)
Beagle, The kids are actually doing great. They have tons of friends, do well in school and sports, each has their own style and interests. I've almost completed this really difficult thing and I am going to see it through. My real motivation for coming here is that (once again) I don't know how to want anything anymore. I'm working on the BFE's Maybe in two years I will know how to be happy.
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No More Nice Guy versus staying...
Published (2009-11-05 21:29:00)
Quote: Originally Posted by gold ... The real problem is that I just don't know what I want. I really have no passion for anything. Re-read the book as you do the BF exercises. After shocking you with its no nonsense description of your current/past personal reality, NMMNG first helps you to figure out what you want, and then how to get it.
user's latest post:
Wife's emotional affair
Published (2009-11-08 16:19:00)
Quote: Originally Posted by chevy1947 what is your thought on the pictures he sent his wife of him jacking off? actually I don't think this is an "emotional" affair. That's a term concocted by women. This is straight up devaluing him by her. It's like he's not even there. The guy hangs around with them? He's still contacting her? This is just him being a passive NG letting her get away with anything...
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It's not me that has the...
Published (2009-11-04 16:03:00)
Quote: Originally Posted by Jaik Is it just me or does marriage counseling seem built for this sort of situation? It does, tailor made - in fact. I told her last night I'd been thinking about moving out for the last few weeks, just at the end of the rope emotionally and can only rely on myself. She was shocked, concerned, looked utterly scared. We talked about our emotional connect, sex, parenting. I got a lot of it out and I felt...
user's latest post:
Wife's emotional affair
Published (2009-11-08 13:14:00)
Lordy, Lordy...you are on for the ride of your life...LOL. you can do it though. here is how.. The Advice you have gotten so far is golden and true. I know, I've been in the boat... You want to pull your hair out because She don't see the same picture as you do. it's plain and evident and sticking out as obvious...she still won't see that she is doing anything wrong. a few rules to follow: Your words and explanation WILL...
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Refoming Nice Guy Trying to...
Published (2009-11-03 18:28:00)
Nofear, The only way to keep the children unharmed is to kick her out and not let her back in, while YOU keep the kids. I don't see any reason why she will change. She is the one getting her needs met while she gives you all the guilt. LouisianaMan
user's latest post:
how to handle her temper - Page...
Published (2009-11-05 16:41:00)
Quote: Originally Posted by decades get the book walking on eggshells. Rob, You may want to checkout what decades is offering up here. Next time you are in your local bookstore, aka Borders or Barnes&Noble, take a browse through "Stop Walking on Eggshells" by Randi Kreger. Just find the book, and then find yourself a nice quiet corner, and start flipping through the book and skim some of the sections that may catch...
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Latest active threads on Issues of Marriage::
Started 1 week, 1 day ago (2009-11-02 18:46:00)
by Solitude
What do you want?
Say out loud "I want ....." to give yourself some clarity.
Have you discussed the affair with her? If everything came out onto the table, could you forgive her?
Do you want to stay married? It appears not. If you are really unwilling "to feel close to her" you are doing her and yourself a disservice by maintaining a fascade.
I don't know how old your kids are, but...
Started 3 days, 3 hours ago (2009-11-07 23:51:00)
by chevy1947
First: Welcome aboard, lots of us here have sat in your chair.
You are new but the guys know my wife had an affair to top it off I now
see my daughter doing it in her marriage.
Pick up a book surviving an affair by a husband and wife doctor team.
I will tell you a few things you might not want to hear:
I think if a wife went out with her GF's and had too many drinks and met up ...
Started 1 week ago (2009-11-03 10:26:00)
by decades
your story is classic, taken right out of the pages of NMMNG. NG doing most of the work, not feeling appreciated for it, and taking a lot of shit in the process, and being frustrated with Dear Wife. Why doesn't she appreciate you!!
It will continue as long as you allow it to continue. that is, as long as you accept the situation. this stuff is really really simple but hard for NGs to pull ...
Started 1 week ago (2009-11-03 21:13:00)
by chevy1947
First Welcome aboard
Lots of guys here to help.
You will get a lot of standard questions and suggestions but I will give you the basic
#1 What do you want out of the marraige at this point which means what do you want for YOU
#2 Have you sat down and talked about the lack of sex and passion?
Is it possible that she feels it is not coming from you?
Two people who ...
Started 1 week, 6 days ago (2009-10-28 12:41:00)
by Tower of Power
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Originally Posted by Explorer
Hi guys……Well Im back for more.
Since I last posted in the sight a lot has happened. I separated from my wife, filed for divorce, had several affairs, and now I have a girlfriend that seems to be a normal person. A mediation is scheduled for mid November and the court date is scheduled ...
Started 1 month ago (2009-10-08 17:50:00)
by chevy1947
I am not divorced however I have seen more than a few of them with friends and family.
with children:
It is the worst when mom and dad try to get the kids to take sides.
Many kids especially younger think its all their fault and if only they had been better mommie and daddy would not be fighting and getting a divorce.
assure them that you love them and mom loves them ( I ...
Started 1 week, 1 day ago (2009-11-02 16:13:00)
by Red Beard
Quote:
Originally Posted by Peachrover
So what do I do?
What do you want?
Started 1 week, 5 days ago (2009-10-29 11:32:00)
by RecoveringNG
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Originally Posted by NoFear
I also fully appreciate that my wife’s number one problem is her proud, perfectionist personality. Any person, situation or event that is not perfect goes into her mental ledger which she constantly tracks and updates. She fixates on the sliver of imperfection. She is incapable of letting anything go....
Started 1 week, 1 day ago (2009-11-02 16:44:00)
by Red Beard
I think that you are over analysing this.
Just do it, and see what kind of responce you get....
The best laid battle plans get thrown in the trash once the battle starts.
Started 1 week, 4 days ago (2009-10-30 13:06:00)
by RecoveringNG
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Originally Posted by heftysmurf
Much of this hit me like a 2x4.
http://www.theoccidentalquarterly.co...no2_Devlin. pdf
Thought i would share and looking for opinions.
Man that was a hard read.
Fascinating. My question is, what's the point of marriage again? In fact, what's the point in ...
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Hot threads for last week on Issues of Marriage::
Started 1 week ago (2009-11-03 10:26:00)
by decades
your story is classic, taken right out of the pages of NMMNG. NG doing most of the work, not feeling appreciated for it, and taking a lot of shit in the process, and being frustrated with Dear Wife. Why doesn't she appreciate you!!
It will continue as long as you allow it to continue. that is, as long as you accept the situation. this stuff is really really simple but hard for NGs to pull ...
Started 1 week, 1 day ago (2009-11-02 18:46:00)
by Solitude
What do you want?
Say out loud "I want ....." to give yourself some clarity.
Have you discussed the affair with her? If everything came out onto the table, could you forgive her?
Do you want to stay married? It appears not. If you are really unwilling "to feel close to her" you are doing her and yourself a disservice by maintaining a fascade.
I don't know how old your kids are, but...
Started 1 week, 1 day ago (2009-11-02 16:13:00)
by Red Beard
Quote:
Originally Posted by Peachrover
So what do I do?
What do you want?
Started 3 days, 3 hours ago (2009-11-07 23:51:00)
by chevy1947
First: Welcome aboard, lots of us here have sat in your chair.
You are new but the guys know my wife had an affair to top it off I now
see my daughter doing it in her marriage.
Pick up a book surviving an affair by a husband and wife doctor team.
I will tell you a few things you might not want to hear:
I think if a wife went out with her GF's and had too many drinks and met up ...
Started 1 week, 1 day ago (2009-11-02 16:44:00)
by Red Beard
I think that you are over analysing this.
Just do it, and see what kind of responce you get....
The best laid battle plans get thrown in the trash once the battle starts.
Started 1 week, 3 days ago (2009-10-31 22:57:00)
by checked
Hard to say without being there.....
But I wouldnt punch a woman if she was playing.... or even if she wasnt. But to punch her back would take her having a weapon.
Ive had women do that and think that they are not doing anything wrong. If my wife is around she will handle it and if she isnt then I simply avoid it as casually as possible. Only once have I had to say something to a ...
Started 1 week, 5 days ago (2009-10-29 11:32:00)
by RecoveringNG
Quote:
Originally Posted by NoFear
I also fully appreciate that my wife’s number one problem is her proud, perfectionist personality. Any person, situation or event that is not perfect goes into her mental ledger which she constantly tracks and updates. She fixates on the sliver of imperfection. She is incapable of letting anything go....
Started 1 week ago (2009-11-03 21:13:00)
by chevy1947
First Welcome aboard
Lots of guys here to help.
You will get a lot of standard questions and suggestions but I will give you the basic
#1 What do you want out of the marraige at this point which means what do you want for YOU
#2 Have you sat down and talked about the lack of sex and passion?
Is it possible that she feels it is not coming from you?
Two people who ...
Started 1 week, 1 day ago (2009-11-02 14:59:00)
by CRASH
It's like an out of body experience, I can see those negative traits about myself occurring again.
I broke free and she came back and now I see myself right back to it.
That's a riot !!!!
All is well, but I wanted to share.
Started 1 week, 4 days ago (2009-10-30 13:06:00)
by RecoveringNG
Quote:
Originally Posted by heftysmurf
Much of this hit me like a 2x4.
http://www.theoccidentalquarterly.co...no2_Devlin. pdf
Thought i would share and looking for opinions.
Man that was a hard read.
Fascinating. My question is, what's the point of marriage again? In fact, what's the point in ...
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