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Quote: Originally Posted by decades actually I don't think this is an "emotional" affair. That's a term concocted by women. This is straight up devaluing him by her. It's like he's not even there. The guy hangs around with them? He's still contacting her? This is just him being a passive NG letting her get away with anything she wants with NO consequences. The problem isn't the other guy....

Quote: Originally Posted by checked Just skimmed the thread after reading the title -- and 2 thoughts come to mind. The first is "why HANDLE her temper at all"? Not your problem --even if the venom is directed at you. If she's being disrespectful then walk away --refuse to engage or give her back exactly what she is giving to you -- including the "hurtful" words. One thing that I started trying when my...

My advice to this situation is pretty simple. No 1 - Tell her the following. This is unacceptable and it has to stop and unless it does I am moving towards a divorce. I will only accept a functional relationship or divorce. No 2 - Don't talk to her much anymore unless she instigates the matter. Do not talk about the relationship / the kids etc. No 3 - Forget the intervention - its a form of trying to control her and it won't work....

Beagle, The kids are actually doing great. They have tons of friends, do well in school and sports, each has their own style and interests. I've almost completed this really difficult thing and I am going to see it through. My real motivation for coming here is that (once again) I don't know how to want anything anymore. I'm working on the BFE's Maybe in two years I will know how to be happy.

Quote: Originally Posted by gold ... The real problem is that I just don't know what I want. I really have no passion for anything. Re-read the book as you do the BF exercises. After shocking you with its no nonsense description of your current/past personal reality, NMMNG first helps you to figure out what you want, and then how to get it.

Quote: Originally Posted by chevy1947 what is your thought on the pictures he sent his wife of him jacking off? actually I don't think this is an "emotional" affair. That's a term concocted by women. This is straight up devaluing him by her. It's like he's not even there. The guy hangs around with them? He's still contacting her? This is just him being a passive NG letting her get away with anything...

Quote: Originally Posted by Jaik Is it just me or does marriage counseling seem built for this sort of situation? It does, tailor made - in fact. I told her last night I'd been thinking about moving out for the last few weeks, just at the end of the rope emotionally and can only rely on myself. She was shocked, concerned, looked utterly scared. We talked about our emotional connect, sex, parenting. I got a lot of it out and I felt...

Lordy, Lordy...you are on for the ride of your life...LOL. you can do it though. here is how.. The Advice you have gotten so far is golden and true. I know, I've been in the boat... You want to pull your hair out because She don't see the same picture as you do. it's plain and evident and sticking out as obvious...she still won't see that she is doing anything wrong. a few rules to follow: Your words and explanation WILL...

Nofear, The only way to keep the children unharmed is to kick her out and not let her back in, while YOU keep the kids. I don't see any reason why she will change. She is the one getting her needs met while she gives you all the guilt. LouisianaMan

Quote: Originally Posted by decades get the book walking on eggshells. Rob, You may want to checkout what decades is offering up here. Next time you are in your local bookstore, aka Borders or Barnes&Noble, take a browse through "Stop Walking on Eggshells" by Randi Kreger. Just find the book, and then find yourself a nice quiet corner, and start flipping through the book and skim some of the sections that may catch...