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sometimes a holding pattern for a set period of time is actually good. If you can express this to your wife it might actually help. try, honey we seem to be at each others throats for no reason or petty reasons why don't we step back and enjoy the holidays and talk after the 1st. might reduce tension and pressure of who won the last skirmish. word of caution, I never thought my wife would stray, not mine I was cocky and over confident...

Quote: Originally Posted by D8zed What happened? Well, I was ready for this big ass chewing but when I told her I had bought a pie, she said "Oh, I had asked S20 to stop at the grocery store to buy some eclairs". I was surprised there was not more of a reaction. However, about an hour later comes this exchange totally out of the blue while I was in the den and she was in the family room: Wife (in a very pissed off tone of...

checked: she said she heard 2 beeps from me pressing the buttons on the phone, which is true because I pressed once to answer it (too late) and pressed the caller id button. She knew it was D16 cuz our TV also display caller id info. Believe me, this woman IS NOT having an affair no matter how much I wish she would. chevy: I don't know if my wife knows what she wants. The last time we had any type of discussion about our marriage, she...

Quote: Originally Posted by D8zed Believe me, this woman IS NOT having an affair no matter how much I wish she would. LOL - It's good seeing someone so confident in their relationship.

Quote: Originally Posted by chevy1947 Oh I don't buy that a married woman that has kids and does not earn much is not popular, she already proved that wrong with her asswipe friend. Sure, she can be "popular", but that's generally while she's still IN the marriage! If it ends, it may not be so easy for her to find someone new who'll stick by her.

Quote: Originally Posted by LouisianaMan Sooner or later you will have to decide whether all this extra drama is worth staying around for. Are you hooked on drama? Wive's into power struggles hardly ever give them up and will continue to change the rules. LouisianaMan I agree. In my case, my wife still revels in it. I have noticed my own behavior changing with much awareness, and keep the focus on Chevy's quote: "Don't...

Quote: Originally Posted by chevy1947 Have your testosterone tested? mine is low but they will not give me meds right now. Just had surgery and a few other issues. lots of reasons but in truth I think with issues with wife that resentment and anger lie below the surface and cause you to lose desire or go limp at the worst possible times. believe it or not working on this forum and whatever else I am doing the problem has seemed to get less...

D8zed, Rarely do relationship problems go on hold for the holidays... usually the holidays is when things combust.... hold tight and be strong - be prepared... regards, GTB

StarTrek, EMDR is a therapy method that identifies past issues that cause you emotional pain and reactivity. My therapist suggests that I react to my wife of past hurts, that is over-react to her. My reaction comes from past shame/guilt experiences. The process is getting you to visualize those past events and allow your mind to make links and connections. You go back, feel the pain, experience the situatation again, and then as you process it...

umm why not have both? if you can't put a frickin pie on the table next to the one your wife put down there...I mean I would say man up but I guess I need to say PIE up.