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Quote: Originally Posted by Hawkeye No, no it's not that. The one night stand is relieving you of some kind of expectations of yourself. Some kind of rules you're following when at home. You're the Nice Guy at home. You are probably more yourself with the one night stand or something. You're not the safe guy. You are a different person at home than away. Like with me when I went to a foreign country. I was much freer with...

You've taken a step in the right direction. Now, just don't stop what you were doing that was making you successful. The danger of success is getting too comfortable. Keep moving forward.

Since you mention the Stranger I assume you are living in Seattle, not as easy a place to hook up as NYC or Miami, where people are more sociable. I've actually had luck meeting people online for years now, but they tend not to be from my city. The problem with online dating is that women can be choosy since any decent looking chick can get dozens of requests a day. I went on yahoo personals for a month once and didn't get a single...

I hadn't seen this thread before; glad it got bumped up. Great explanation, plan of attack, and examples to boot. I had somewhat of a 'dating moratorium' over the course of a month and a half, but from the looks of it, a longer time is definitely needed!

Quote: You still don't get it. Dating/relationships is not about chance. You can easily create attraction just as you can easily kill it. "Asking" to date someone before you've even develop attraction or intimacy with her is almost always going to fail. You need to lead it. And even then, she'll resist. If you lead, she will follow if she's interested. If you ask her to follow, she won't. I hear but...

Quote: Originally Posted by MountainMan Yes. Go ask out another girl. Roger that.

Quote: Originally Posted by aguy Over the last year I've tried a whole bunch of things. I've tried match.com, date.com, eharmony.com and thestranger's personals . Maybe try real life.

Well I do appreciate the advice, I'm just taking it all in is all. We have discussed the issue, and from what I conjure up is that she's not ready, and said to me, that she like to have sex, but she wants to take it slow.

So i'm with my family for Thanksgiving now, and I am using this time for a good period of relaxation and rejuvenation. I looked in Barnes and Noble for some of Bradshaw and Susan Anderson's books (as mentioned in another thread by rufwarrior), but no luck. I'll probably order them online once he responds to my message and I get some more info. Anyway, amongst the game of million questions about Jess that we've played...

The Playa has never married. He has one long term relationship with a lady he went to school with. She is the mother of his sixth and youngest child, the only boy. The girls have different mothers. He would keep three or so ladies as "friends" and he would call them often and juggle them all the time, often during breaks at work. At times he would meet and get to "know" better up to five more. He had trouble...