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Quote: Originally Posted by fooled once What is a 'reformed' OW?? And FA, I wish you would stop *hug* I am not going to call you names. I know you struggle with what you are doing. The people who do call you names, they aren't people you would want to know in real life *hug* Keep that promise What I consider 'reformed'OWs are women who were once either OW or MOW and now come here to berate OW who...

Quote: Originally Posted by torranceshipman Do you think many OWs put up with hard times because they assume there will be an endpoint (eg he'll leave W eventually), but the MM often never thinks further than the next 24hrs? That'd explain a lot of the lies, i.e. Just saying whatever the AP wants to hear regardless of what it us? maybe assuming the M person has any focus or end in sight is a huge mistake to make. What do you think?...

Quote: Originally Posted by BurriedAlive I believe that if a MM gets involved in an affair, he is clearly lacking something at home. That may be sex or the feeling of being wanted or whatever... But what I am wondering is if a MM who is involved in an EA with no physical infidelity is more likely to leave his marriage than one in a PA? The way I see it, an EA is probably more dangerous to a marriage than a PA because of the deep feelings...

Quote: Originally Posted by hisprincess41407 His wife will always be #1 that is why he married her. Well, in that case, he's got a really funny way of showing it...

My situation was different in that I got involved with my mm when he was already separated, but then he ended up going back to a marriage that was a mistake from the beginning. (his words) I foolishly assumed that it would be a matter of months before he wrapped it up and was back with me. There were a lot of conflicting feelings once he went back, then a serious illness in his family and I think the longer he stayed the harder it became to...

Quote: Originally Posted by Lizzie60 If that could make you feel better.. if you can't stop obsessing about it.. maybe she is thinking about you while having sex with her H.. just so it makes it more exciting.. My guess is that she is probably bored to death sexually.. and she probably fantasize about you when she's in bed with him... (some MMs told me that's what they do) Another great idea! If you can't persuade yourself...

Quote: Originally Posted by Samantha0905 I agree. Well, you've already done it once -- I'm assuming not in your current marriage. And it isn't just because circumstances are put in a person's face most of the time I'm sure. It may also be the circumstances a person is living and they respond to those outside temptations in a manner which is not socially acceptable. I agree with never say never. And to whoever said...

Well.. good for you to know that you will never cheat.. Although I always said that most men cheat, and ALL would if given the opportunity and knowing for SURE that their SO would NEVER find out... I always said that MOST women would NOT... for some reason.. we are more faithful by nature.. we are just not sexually wired like men are..

Quote: Originally Posted by Lizzie60 I'm sure some MMs do not have any endpoint when they start an affair.. I'm sure some MMs do have a plan to end their marriage when they start an affair.. I'm sure some MMs have no ideas where the A will lead them... With my first A, I was head over heels in love with this man (my fist ex).. our A lasted 11 years... then I had him all for myself for 18 years... When we first started.. no one...

Despite having said I would give XMM time to get his crap together. I no longer feel inclined to do so. Call me vain or egotistical or whatever I just feel that things shouldn't be so easy. You left, you made a choice. Yes so your choice was the wrong one but do you have to step in sh*t to know its sh*t. He asks me not to see anyone or not to date. I told him he is out of line. I understand the whole money thing. Even now she is still...