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Did you or did you not send the STBXH to this site?

God wants you to know... that all is well. What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happens, all events, past, present, and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good? Interesting...I think I already know what I can't accept (my ex knows that now too).

Quote: Originally Posted by broken hearted Tojaz, yes, that was the only time anything was ever remotely physical but you've got to believe me when I say that I did treat him horribly! There were times when I belittled him bc of his extensive sexual past before we started dating. This all came after our son was born bc I was suffering from post partum depression, not bc of who I really am. The time after our son was born until the time...

Quote: Originally Posted by soheartbroken Thank you Gunny. This means a lot to me. I say this as thou you were my daughter! Love yourself! For who and what what you are! Love Gunny!

His actions left marks that no one can see. Anyone capable of doing that, terrifying you, must have done other things as well. Keep thinking of the bad things he has done. You need to paint a picture of what he really looks like and not look at that glossy head shot where he looks so perfect because of all the airbrushing.

yep give him the respect he deserves and move on. What you did was unjustifiable in my oppinion but you both deserve to be happy.........especially him. You can both move on and have happy lives apart as everyone deserves to have some happiness. Stop torchering him and do the decent thing. I too agree that it is not always the best thing to do to stay in a loveless distructive relationship. Life is short but to leave a relationship with...

[QUOTE=curiou;2508865]LisaUK, If you haven't done so already, I would consider using something like antidepressants, psychotherapy, and/or religion as a crux to help you get through this. I am STILL on a wait list here in the UK for counselling, is our wonderful National Health Service that someone in my position has been waiting for 8 months! I had faith, I lost it when he left, if God exisits he would not let me suffer this pain. I...

I agree. move on! For both of their sakes.

Hang in there man. My STBX who I am with in an earlier stage of your situation does the same thing. Thinks nothing of asking me to do things for her like I am a Personal Assistant sometimes, even while we are going through all of this stuff. Try not to fall into being too responsive and just keep the 180 going. From everything Ive read, even if it doesn't work out with your STBX it will work out for the most important person...you, since...

Hello Beebie - I think you are doing the right thing even though it will be difficult..... I know that I do not regret searching for evidence and eventually exposing my husband. I know what you are doing is a little different but it is important that it is done. If I were you, I would firstly ensure that I looked a million dollars (as that would give me more confidence) when he arrives home. I would have already laid out all the photo's...