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Just remember that your feelings are not her feelings. Just because you feel a certain way about her does not automatically mean she must reciprocate. Part of this game that is finding someone, is knowing that you've just got to put yourself out there and hope they feel the same way. That's all you can do. You can't make them feel any sort of way. Understanding if she doesn't feel the same way, then don't settle for...

I am ok, but I just can't be a*sed with him anymore to be honest. I don't have the energy for him anymore :-( But what do I do? Wait for him to send me an email when he's back home telling me the verdict or pre-empt any such situation and email him myself first telling him on no accounts can I be friends? Quote: Originally Posted by Peaceful Guy hey, how's it goin' baloo2 i really do hope things work out well for you.

Quote: Originally Posted by WTRanger It is amazing how simple everything looks when it is written down, yet so complicated in our minds. Why do we still feel to continue to fight? I know I need to just accept her for who she is right now and not who she may have been in the past. wtranger, your being too hard on yourself. instead of cramming new ideas in, you need to release the old ones. its forgiveness.. and its not...

sotighttonight, i sincerely wish you the best of luck here. The best piece of advise i can offer you as someone who is going through the same thing at the moment is to try and think of the possible positive outcomes. I constantly think to myself, she will say and no then it will become awkward between us, eventually dissapearing as one of us goes to a different job. However, that is just one extreme outcome, she could also say yes and you...

Quote: Originally Posted by WTRanger One word of advice. Next time a girl comes back to your place, pay more attention to her than you do your bong. You don't want to be Seth Rogan's character in Knocked Up who saves his bong instead of his pregnant girlfriend when there is an earthquake. She may have picked up on that. But you didn't mention if both of you got high or was it just you? Just so you read this again as it is the...

I thought this too 'I cannot cope with the rejection'. But in my experience it is better to know. If she says 'no, I just don't see you in that way', yeah it totally sucks and is horrible, but it gives you the opportunity to say 'well, I think it's best we don't hang out any more for a while because I'm looking for more than friendship'. Cutting your crush out of your life before knowing...

Pad I did in fact remind him - he already knew so what was I telling him that could be so surprising? I admitted that I needed to just admit it to myself. After that he no longer used "sooner" as a defense. What he does continue to defend is that he really has not had time to meet and talk. He said he's frustrated that I have not been understanding that enough. And is acting as though meeting to talk is still an option....

Quote: My biggest concern is that because it takes me so long to develop friendships or just be generally comfortable enough around someone to ask them out, i dread when i reach that point because for me it isn't a case of 'Well, she said no, onto the next girl' it's back to square one, do not pass go, do not collect £200. It's also an issue that by this point i am generally emotionally invested in the person, and so...

I was never ever used for my attention and comfort. Absolutely not. This isn't my delusion...it was a true two-way friendship. Except she's now decided she's shallow and that I'm not attractive to her that much or something. And when she says in the email that she sincerely wants to keep being friends with me, am I supposed to assume she's lying?! Also I'm not apologising...I told her plain and simple that it...

going thru the same thing man, I would cut of all contact only if rejected, I mean the worst thing that can happen is she doesnt feel the same way, but if you dont try u'll never know right? In the end, it u who has to make the decision. Good luck and Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year. btw, I let the girl go cuz I couldnt wait for her, i need someone to be sure about me, come 2nd to no one my friend, if she comes abck to me itll...