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You are in about the same situation I am in Jojo with Mom and Dad's finances. Mom has LTD insurance but Dad does not. Dad has a state retirement and military retirement, both of which have 100% survivor rights for Mom so even if he dies she will get 100% of both. Mom was a wiz in the stock market and managed to create an above average portfolio. So their income and holdings opt them out of Medicaid coverage but it may take just about...

Oh Pauline... Truly the words of experience. You have looked back and you know you were a wonderful daughter to your wonderful mom. Your words are what we will need when it is our time. Thank you. Love, Meg

I called my Mom yesterday morning, a little reluctantly, but she was so happy to hear from me. Made me feel ok about calling her. Anyway, we made plans to go make a christmas list of possible presents for the kids. We brought my 2 kids. I didn't have the heart to tell Mom that right now she doesn't have the money for Christmas. I told the kids we are not buying anything today. We had a very nice time with Mom. She did repeat herself...

Confronting her would not help, she is not able to think clearly and make smart decisions. It probably shocks you, but eventually we all bcome wonderful at little white lies and deceptions. Remember, you are not making up stories to harm or cheat your Mom but to help her. That huge amount of money she is carrying around can so easily be stolen, or some sharp crook can convince her to give it to him as a wonderful investment. Use some of the...

depending on nursing home locations -- its runs between 8500 and 11000 per month

Deb, you are a rock! I will call the nursing home my mom likes. She has volunteered there since my grandmother was a resident, over 20 years ago, and everyone knows her and she feels confident she'll get good care there. I need to find out the cost, and put them on a waiting list. Even if I hope it won't be necessary, you all make a good point - I should be better prepared for this possibility than I am. I don't think either one...

Quote: Originally Posted by DGabriel10 I would so make that $3,500 disappear. Mom used to carry several hundred dollars but it began to disappear and she had NO idea where it went. She would take $200 out of the ATM one day and go back the next with no clue she had been the first time or where that money went. It was a blessed day when she forgot how to use the ATM card!!! Now Mom has no money because she keeps hiding it from herself and Dad...

I never quite understood when I used to hear people say to others well, its a blessing they are no longer in any pain. I used to think how can one say that?? They just lost a loved one. Not until the past week or so do I feel I really do understand the meaning of those words and how true they are in my mom's case. My mom suffered an awful lot the past year. Mostly from being a dialysis patient, BUT she fought it all the way.... She always...

Deb, I do get it!! If we put a freeze on her credit cards she'll be asking how did you get my numbers and that I am sneeky. We do have POA but like I said before, we cannot make her do anything she doesn't want to do. I am getting so upset with all of this and it is taking a toll on my life too. She fights us on "everything". All she wants to do is to move back to Ontario and get as far away from my husband and me...

the removal of excess cloths is a must... it is not easy but little by little I have taken bag fulls of clothing to the thrift store, probably where it came from in the first place...now I put the cloths out for my mom on top of her dresser where it is easy to see, and all her sweats, top and bottoms,each time I visit they all must be scrutinized to make sure there are no stains, I have a bunch of extra ones, same color and replace the ones...