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Thank you Nina. My sister's friend's blah blah, the psychiatrist asked us to give him some names of NH's and he will look into their dementia wings for us. I of course don't know Paramus from the Jersey Shore, although I am learning.

I agree with Marj, take her to the doctors for a check-up and if nothing other than the dementia is causing the behavior, see about getting medications for your Mom. Do you spend a great deal of time with your Mom? If you spend hours at a time with her and she's never physically aggressive with you, perhaps a new nurse is a good idea. If you just see her for an hour or two here and there, she may be on her best behavior for you and...

Sorry to tell you,,but your MIL has "NO legal recourse". The only thing she can do is take back all the crap that your FIL purchased on credit,,and make the people take it back and refund the money,,,if they don't do that,,then she should call the local police/sherriff,,and have them convince the business to give back the money. And since times are so hard,,be prepared for the business owners to say no. Also,,how did your FIL...

My first thought was, "Oh no she didn't!" I'm interested in knowing whether or not you saw this report in writing or if this is something your mother made up. If it is true, I'd let that doctor know that you were going to hold her responsible if your mother got behind the wheel again and killed herself or some innocent.

I'd definitely try to speak with store about your dad's illness and see if they'll be "honorable" and take it all back. Just another part of the disease. Mom didn't go crazy buying too many items, but kept everything. I had stacks and stacks of magazines from the 70's, old zip lock bags (could start a plastic factory with all I found), and just lots and lots of old clothes from 50 yrs ago. Can you get the...

In addition to all the good comments above: 1) What about non-verbal signs of pain - is she curling on her side, etc.? Hospice will be more knowledgeable about this. 2) Sometimes crying out is just a random result of brain damage, not truly evidence of pain or emotional upset. It could have been any other physical display - like a repetitive clenching of the hand, for example. I know it still sounds wrenching - and of course at this stage...

"The Great Tragedy of Alzheimers Disease is not when the Patient cannot remember a loved one..It is.. When the Patient is Forgotten..by the loved one." -Gary Franks.

Who is actually going to feed the pureed diet? Like Grassflower pointed out...she may not qualify for hospice. Who's going to be there for 3 meals a day? Is that an extra cost? Do you have the funds if you are going to need to bring in some extra help to ensure things are done? I don't see hospice feeding anyone at night. Grassflower offers some very solid advice. Copy down her questions and take them with you. Take a tape recorder...

Over on Spouse, they keep tabs on the ages of the caregivers, and their AD spouses. The most recent statistics for the caregivers: 30's - 2 40's - 19 50's - 65 60's - 46 70's - 24 80's - 7 Their AD spouses: 30's - 0 40's - 3 50's -30 60's - 42 70's - 39 80's - 23 The level of caregiver fatigue depends on a lot of things, including how far into the progression the ADLO is, and whether...

Welcome aboard, Phoebe. I think you can already tell many people have had the same experience with siblings. I think it is harder for many men (Sorry, you guys who are the exception out there!) to deal with the illness. As women, we are expected to care for those who are weaker -- small children, the ill of the family. (Not to say every woman is a fabulous loving caregiver either.) The important part is to remember the only behavior you can...